Staying Vital as You Age?

Pair of red wet cherry fruit on stem with green leaf isolated on whitecherry blossom

The blossoms are the essential part of the progession to the fruit; and the fruit is just as vital.

Have you noticed when you are filling in a form, they put the age brackets into such an order that when you reach 65, it just becomes 65+?

Society spends a lot of time, worrying, fretting and resisting the very idea of ageing.

But as we evolve as humans in the 21st Century, isn’t it time for us to embrace the idea? Especially as many of us are living for another thirty to forty years after retirement.

We still matter! Because as long as we have breath, we are still vital.

Illness and disease can occur at any age, so why do we think that old age has the monopoly on it?

Yes; our bodies do wear out and become weaker and frailer, and the chances of succumbing to degenerative disorders are stronger.

But being Vital in our older years is still as much a part of life as when we are younger. There are many younger people who don’t realise how vital they are to society, so why do we insist on giving old age the honour?

The word vitality is being used too loosely these days. It is used to promote products, and ironically anti-ageing foods and creams. Consequently, we think of vitality as something that is easily lost and associates that loss with ageing.

Some of the synonyms for the word vitality are; Liveliness, energy, animation, spirit, passion, sparkle and vibrancy; the power giving continuance of life, present in all living things; Vital force or energy.

If you study those words and bear in mind that we are all made up of Mind, body and spirit, you may realise that you can retain them.

Liveliness can remain in the mind and spirit, along with vibrancy and passion.

Every one of us, from birth to death, have something to contribute to the world. No matter where you are, where you live, the state of your mind or health, the state of your finances, whatever your intellect or culture you have a VITAL role to play. At any age.

You may not ever become rich, a writer, an artist, a teacher, a celebrity or earn lots of money. You may even be thinking at this moment that you are not successful because you haven’t reached a goal that you had in mind. You may have just been diagnosed with an illness or condition that you perceive as a road to failure.

You may even be thinking that you are already a failure, let alone when you get older.

You may have just retired or are coming up to retirement, and you see the future as bleak and that you will no longer be a vital part of society.

On the other hand, you may be looking forward to a bit of peace.

Do you have the thought at the back of your mind that it is downhill all the way after the age of 65? Do you think that you must do the things on your bucket list before it’s too late?

Too late for what? Perhaps too late to be able to travel freely, too late for certain activities, yes. But have you thought about what else it may be too late for? Are you seeing the time to come, the “too late” as a time when you are sitting like the proverbial cabbage?

The truth is that; As long as you have breath, you are still vital!

But how can I remain vital when I am too weak or helpless to do anything?

All of us have energy running through us as long as we are alive.

Most of the time we are unaware of it and only when we are active in some way, we become aware. But it is there; how else would your heart keep beating, your eyes seeing and all the other organs in your body stay working?

Collective energy is what you feel in a crowd at a football stadium or when the whole world stood still when we were witnessing 9/11.

We are part of the Universal energy, and what is more, it is Vital to every one of us, it is what keeps us alive. You are part of that collective energy.

Even people in a coma, or under anaesthetic have an energy running throughout their body. And they are still vital to the planet and in turn to society.

And even the person in a state of weakness, infirmity and very old age, have that energy and vitality.

People become “old” at any age. The physical process starts at age 27. But in many peoples minds, they begin to feel old as soon as they see the first grey hair.

We put people into categories or brackets. We have expectations of what we can do at any given age. We use the expression “I’m too old for that.”

The perception is different in all of us. Some may still be playing football or running at age ninety; others may need to stop being physically active at a much earlier age due to injury.

When we run upstairs and forget what we came up there for, we fear that it’s the ageing process setting in. Forgetting that most of us at any age do that. What about the schoolchild forgetting his sports kit, or losing his jacket? Do we ask if he or she is getting old?

We think of the darkest fear that we have with the process of old age as a line of events.

  • We retire; we travel or join things; take up mew hobbies.
  • Next; we expect we will start to suffer from disease which disables us from doing all the things that we like to do.
  • We then expect that it’s downhill all the way to becoming useless, a burden on society, and want just to die.

But guess what? That vital energy is still there.

Remember that the Universe does not centre around you, but that You are simply a vital part of it.

So as you become weaker and frailer, you can have either a positive effect on others or a negative.

Prepare for your older years with the thought in mind that you are vital to those around you at this time, and you are on the road to FEELING vital until the day you die.

Another synonym for vitality is spark or sparkle. Are you going to be the spark that lights people’s fire, even when you simply smile at people around you?

Don’t tell me that you can’t do that when you are old and frail. I know many who do. 

Having the spark that lights people’s fire starts at any age. Think of the effect that even the youngest baby has when they smile for the first time.

Are your family and friends going to be drawn to see you? You can do this by staying energised while you can by listening, learning, reading, writing and creating new things.

If your niche is gardening or craft do it, while you can.

Stay informed, be active, eat well.

Research drugs before you take them. You do not have to just go along with what the doctor says and jump on the roundabout of taking one drug after another that dulls your brain and mind.

Make younger friends, don’t just join the local senior citizens club and talk about the weather or your latest illness.

You have a lot to offer younger people coming along. Only three days ago, I was lunching in the centre of London with a young student from Singapore. How did I get there? I was at a Seminar on making choices with people of all ages.

The turning point for me was when at the age of sixty, a friend of the same age commented that she hated this business of getting old.

I thought “I’m outta here!” No way was I going to join that bandwagon.

Yes, I am ageing, yes time is running away with me, but I changed my thinking to one of “My older years are going to be a time of learning, wisdom and supporting others to do the same.”

I for one will remain vital until the day I die.

How about you?

banner-790x90

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

Nutrition for Ageing with Vitality.

happycherry_cover

 

Today we have a guest with us, who is an expert in Nutrition and all things to do with health at any age.

Her name is Jane Hutton. You will find her info in the article. 

Thank you Jane for this very useful and down to earth advice. There is so much information about what is healthy and what is not, that it is good to have something to base our decisions on when we come to making healthy choices. Even more so as we get older.

 So; Over to Jane. 

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………

“It comes to us all in the end.” Hearing those immortal words has become something of a cliche when we feel a twinge, forget why we went upstairs, or notice a new wrinkle when we look in the mirror. It can be easy to fall into a kind of resignation, viewing a gradual crumbling as inevitable once we cross that mythical line into the twilight zone of middle age. The good news? It’s not. There’s much you can do to protect your body and mind from the ravages of time.

 

Not surprisingly, the most potent weapons in staying fit and healthy well into our later years involve treating ourselves holistically. By that I mean that it’s no good cutting the fat off your pork chop if you’re going to sit in a chair all day. It’s pointless going for a daily constitutional stroll if your diet revolves around microwave meals because you never learned to cook.

 

We are what we eat, to be sure, but what about those common traits of getting older, like smaller appetite or less efficient digestion? Are they linked to increasing ill health? They certainly can be; in purely nutritional terms, your body uses the nutrients from your food to fuel the billions of processes and functions going on every day, so if you aren’t getting all the nutrients you need, cracks will eventually begin to show. Without the deficiencies being addressed, niggles become issues, irritations become illness.

 

Lack of nutrients can cause a lack of appetite, and mean that less digestive enzymes are produced to digest what food is eaten. These two aspects combined can result in a vicious circle where not enough is eaten to provide essential nutrients, the nutrients consumed aren’t all available to be used by the body, and the consequent deficiencies mean that appetite suffers. Indigestion or other gastric symptoms can also be an indication that you’re not getting enough of what you need.

 

Naturally, there is an element of wear and tear as we age, but if we prevent age-related decline by being aware of potential potholes, and put pre-emptive strategies in place, the effects will be minimised, and prevention is always better than cure.

 

So, how do you ensure that you are getting everything your body and brain need for firing on all cylinders? Try to implement these easy tips:

 

  1. Eat fresh, unprocessed food – packaged, refined meals are stripped of nutrients. Remember, it’s not about calories, it’s about nutrients.

 

  1. Buy your food from a local source if possible – if you don’t have a greengrocer and butcher within easy distance, there are many box schemes and local produce hubs. For instance, in Plymouth you could choose from Riverford, Joe Brown’s, The Cornish Food Box Company, and Tamar Valley Food Hubs, plus several more.

 

  1. If you don’t know how to cook, make it a priority to learn. Look on it as an adventure, a creative outlet, and a way to maintain independence. Enrol in a class with a friend, or find a good recipe source and cook up a storm with a friend as a social occasion – cooking with and for others is fun as well as healthy.

 

  1. Eat regular meals, whether you’re hungry or not. If your food is fresh and nutrient-dense, having more smaller meals is just as good as having three larger meals every day.

 

  1. Optimise the digestion and uptake of nutrients – a plant-based digestive enzyme is a good way to do this, or you can take a teaspoon of organic apple cider vinegar in a little water just before meals to stimulate digestion. If you have had antibiotics, it’s also crucial to restore your gut flora with a good probiotic that contains several strains – in some countries, it’s common practice to prescribe probiotics along with antibiotics; not so here. The fact remains that our micro biome is essential to health.

 

  1. Exercise daily – this is as important for appetite as your mineral balance. While zinc deficiency can cause reduced appetite and compromised sense of taste, not doing enough can impact on how hungry you feel. Regular exercise naturally has the added benefit of boosting metabolism and keeping muscles healthy.

 

There you have it: just a few quick tips that you can put into practice today to improve your health, prevent illness, and hold back the years. Just a few small tweaks can make a huge difference!

 

 

For more information on personal plans, targeted health advice, or any other ways I can help, you can find me at jane@trinityholistics.co.uk, or on 07841 344934.

 

You can try my recipe hub at www.functional-foodie.com – the free membership allows access to some easy, delicious recipes, while full membership gives access to a growing collection; great for quick inspiration.

 

www.trinityholistics.co.uk

 

www.functional-foodie.com

………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..

In conjunction with banner-790x90

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

Attitude Affects Our Cells.

 

Untitled-1

 

Are you aware of how much your attitude affects your life?

To some people this is obvious. If we have an “attitude” people can pick it up very easily. This comes into effect particularly with police work for example. If someone displays a certain attitude, they are immediately considered suspicious.

Can you think of a way that you have seen certain attitudes come into play? Someone who gets on the bus or train, for example, can immediately alienate people with an aggressive attitude. Certainly if they have consumed too much alcohol. (That’s putting it politely!)

Have you ever stopped to consider your attitude to yourself?

Did you know that attitude can affect the cells in your body?

Let’s look at Metabolism.

Metabolism is not just about how much you can eat. It is your whole body and your mind.

Attitude has an effect on a cellular level. What we think about what goes into our mouths, affect how the cells metabolise the food. A lifetime of thinking that we need to “be fixed” in some way, can destroy the ability of the cells to do what they have to do.

Thus, affecting weight loss efforts and our ageing.

You may be living your life focusing on how you look, one diet after another, putting on weight and losing it. Eating foods that you KNOW are not good for you all the time can affect the way that your body metabolises it. Carrying on eating these foods and feeling guilty about them, can itself affect your metabolism. A matter of how your thinking can make a difference in your life.

The secret with this is that once you stop worrying about these foods, you could have them. Someone who has never dieted would not worry about the effect that foods are having on their weight, but would probably eat “normal” amounts of them. They may be careful because of the health problems they may cause, but they certainly are not going to worry and get hung up on being a failure when they eat. They get over it!

Marc David writes about this in his book “The Slow Down Diet.”

I spent most of my life, from the age of nineteen and even as a child, believing that I needed to be fixed in some way. My tummy was too big, my bum was too big, I had “child bearing hips”. Then on top of that, I was taught to believe that only Jesus could fix me. I failed at school, I never made the grade, I did not pass the 11 plus! (For the benefit of people in other countries, this was an exam at the age of 11 to determine how you were going to be educated from the age of 11)

So I lived most of my life believing that I was never good enough.

Only now at the age of 71, can I see that I am good enough.

So where does attitude come in?

My attitude of never being good enough has affected my body because I dieted too much. It affected my career as a younger person, because of limited choices. It could have affected my general health if I had not caught it in time.

BUT, in my older years, I appreciate the fact that I can pass on my wisdom to younger generations.

As a younger person, I never knew that my attitude about myself was having such a dire effect. But now, since the age of 67 I have at last learnt that I AM good enough.

I love my body even with the wrinkles and the extra pounds.

I have obtained a level 5 Diploma in Life Coaching at the age of 68.

I am now studying for a level 3 Diploma in Funeral Celebrancy.

My health is good, even though my body does creak from time to time.

I eat whatever I like, but watch the portions and 80% of the time it is REAL food. Funnily enough, because I also listen to my body now, I have a smaller appetite! 

I am happy, healthy, and what’s more, I am living in the Now and have put my past behind me. Most of all I have changed my attitude about myself in my older years. Because of that, I can be a support to people as a Sage in many ways, rather than just relying on the outside world to be there for me.

banner-790x90

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

What is Your Ageing or Health Story?

Kindle_Cover_Edited

Are you struggling with weight?

Are you active enough?

Are you always at the doctors surgery?

Are you ageing with vitality?

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00O3HGHNK – http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00O3HGHNK                                  Are you bored?

I bet that you could find something that you really want to do or be, but you have a story that is holding you back.

It could be that you believe the reason why you are not able to achieve your goal is a genuine one. But why not just write THE END to the old story and begin a new one.

For example. You have contacted a friend and he or she has not answered. In your mind you think, she doesn’t like me anymore, or she is too busy for the likes of me, or I bet she’s out enjoying herself somewhere and doesn’t care. When you eventually find out that she had lost her phone, or was with someone and could not be disturbed, there is sigh of relief and you realise that what you did was to make up a story. And every time a similar circumstance comes up, you re-write the old story.

Let’s  take a problem such as losing weight. It could be that you have tried every diet under the sun and it has not worked. So you have given up trying. How true is your story? Have you really tried every diet under the sun? And if you think that you have, could there be another way, other than dieting?

Take activity, you may have persuaded yourself that you are an active person and that you get plenty of exercise. You go to the gym, or have tried that, but it makes you so tired and hungry that have given it up as a dead loss. Have you thought of trying another way rather than just giving up?

Visiting the doctor for every little ache, pain or concern, can be a bad habit. Or it could be that you are bored. Or it could be that it is your hobby in life to talk about illness instead of just finding out what your condition is, research it, deal with it the best way possible, put it on the back burner and get on with your life.

Are you feeling your age? Do you feel older than your years? Are you blaming everything on your age?

Are you really bored or are you just lifeless with no motivation?

Or are you still living the old story?

I have just watched a Tony Robbins talk on TV in which he talks about how to win in life. He talks about motivation, strategy and how to infuence people, but he reckons that the single biggest thing that holds people back is their story.

What is yours?

What is really stopping you?

Are you telling the same story over and over again in life and not even considering that you could change it?

You do have a choice! You can change it!

What ever you may be feeling that you stuck in, or a failure at, how could you change the story?

Put a stop to procrastination, fear and using your old story as an excuse.

If you are stuck in the old story with your weight, or any food issues, there are two reports that you can obtain FREE with no subscription sign up, and I promise that you will not hear any more from me unless you want to, if you just write to me by email and request one or the other or even both. They are;

Binge Eating and Weight Management

1

My Secret WM Strategy

 

 

 

 

Or you can purchase any of the three books below from Amazon.

Kindle_Cover_Edited

 

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00O3HGHNK

– http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00O3HGHNK

…………………………………………………………………………………….

25 diets 3d cover

 

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00P947GLS
– http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00P947GLS

……………………………………………………………………………….

SodDieting

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B011L100OC

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B011L100OC

……………………………………………………………………………..

 

To help change your Ageing story, have a look at the Facebook group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/113172222365276/

Join in the conversation, put up posts and ideas, we would love to see you there.

There is also a FREE report on Ageing if you subscribe to my blogs on

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

There will be a new “Ageing with Vitality” book in the new year.

Namaste.

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

Berries and Ageing with Vitality

Blackberries and patchwork 007DSC_0157

What on earth has berries got to do with ageing you may ask?

A lot actually!

Firstly they are the best fruit that you can eat.

For more on the low down on berries see this link; http://www.mnn.com/food/healthy-eating/stories/superfoods-11-berries-to-improve-your-health

In this report, (and you will find a similar story in many others,) Melissa Breyer points out that reserachers have revealed that women who eat strawberries three times a week have less chance of heart attacks. This is because berries have high concentrations of anthocyanin.Pair of red wet cherry fruit on stem with green leaf isolated on white

She goes on to say that women who eat berries experience a slower decline in mental health.

Whilst I am somewhat sceptical of studies, unless I find out how, who or why they were done, the overall conclusion is that they are certainly good for us.

But there is also another connection with berries and ageing.

cherry blossom

The same berries back in the spring were blossoms!

So it is with life. When we are young our bodies are blossoming and have a special beauty. We gaze at the trees in spring and wonder at the colour and splendour, just as we do with young beauty in animals and humans.

The blossom doesn’t last for very long though. A brief month and it falls to the ground leaving a carpet, whilst the tree or bush is left with the core, which grows and matures to a fruit or berry.

Besides a beauty of its own, the berry contains all the goodness, for sustenance for a good and healthy life.

Eventually it is plucked and eaten, or it drops off and becomes the seed for a new bush or tree to grow.

Chestnuts or any seeds and berries that you can think of, have this ability.

Dont forget the mighty oak is grown from a little acorn too. DSC_0079

So too, our ageing process can be of use to planet Earth.

What seeds will you sow in your later years? 

Will you be vital, creative and nurturing?

Will you recognise the beauty of old age?

Will you leave a fruitful and lasting legacy? 

If I have captured your imagination, you can find out more, on my website

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

Or we would love to see you in the Facebook group.

Ageing with Vitality.

Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/113172222365276/

happycherry_cover

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

What Do You Fear About Ageing?

happycherry_cover

What is it about ageing that frightens people most do you think?

What do YOU fear most in old age?

I would love to hear from you about your fears and what you think could be done about it.

People blame the Government, their relatives, their offspring or their parents just for starters. It is their perception that;

The Government, don’t do enough to help.

Their relatives don’t care.

Their offspring is too busy.

Their parents; because of the legacy of beliefs, and the way they were brought up.

Have you ever considered that you can change all that?

Have you ever considered that actually the ball is in YOUR court and that actually if you change the way you think, it could change the outcome?

If you are already in a situation where you seem to be at the hands of all the people and situations I have mentioned, then could you make it your desire to help those who are coming behind to learn by your mistakes?

If you are coming up to retirement or consider yourself a YOUNG older person, i.e., Baby Boomer, could you still change the way that you think and make your older years vital and creative? You too could help people to realise that one doesn’t have to be a victim in your older years.

I have just been reading the book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill again. Alongside that I have been listening to an audio of Wayne Dyers, “Wishes Fulfilled”. Both books teach you how you can change your thinking.

Although these books were written for entrepreneurs, and indeed “Think and Grow Rich” is, there is a lot in them that would help you to change your thinking and enrich your lives in all areas, not just money.

Certainly in your approach to your older years. Whether you are rich or poor, you do have choices in how you think. Thinking is energy and energy is the stuff of which the Universe is made.

Think about it!

We all make choices in life. We all think.

What can you change about the way that you think?

In the next blog, I will give you some examples of how changing the way that you think, can change your health, your outlook on life and can bring you joy, peace and happiness, right where you are now no matter what your circumstances.

Untitled-1

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

The Ageing Adventure.

happycherry_coverI thought today that I would give you some idea of where I have been and where I am going, and why I believe that I can support people in their own ageing adventure.

I started working with older people forty years ago as a care assistant in residential homes, having realised that I had a vocation for that.

Through that, I learnt what makes people in general tick and observed the different ways that people age. Some strong and cheerful even through great adversity, and others bitter and twisted and very difficult to care for.

This implanted in me a desire to make sure that I would not go into my own ageing with unforgiveness and lack of a loving attitude towards my fellow humans.

I opened my own care home after a lot of hard work, passing social services inspections, having converted and painted and decorated, and furnishing a house from scratch, while still working on a night shift. Getting about four hours of sleep a day, over many weeks.

I left the caring profession after a very difficult personal experience with divorce and loss and then meeting and marrying my second husband. But still found myself caring and supporting Elderly neighbours

I also gained experience of the middle age population and enjoyed observing them, by becoming involved with the WI as president of my local meeting, and also did two years on the Cornwall Executive commitee.

At the age of 67, I was introduced to Life Coaching, which in turn led me to realise how much I loved learning. I had not had much oppurtunity at school and left at the age of 15, then married at 19, and went on to having three children and was “just a Naval Housewife”.

I had been led into Life coaching by a friend who was impressed with how healthy I was, and had kept my weight under control. She was convinced that weight management would be a good way for me to go, under the auspice of Life coaching. So I went to University, part time, at the age of 67. 

Because of my backgroud of bingeing and dieting for over forty years, I felt right about this. I then went onto writing books about the subject and designing a website.

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

Then someone spotted that I was a good ambassador for ageing well. At the age of 70 I joined Damsels in Success, which is a personal development group for business women.

So I turned my interest to Ageing with Vitality.  

And here I am. Long story-short.

So what now then?

I have recognised that people who are ageing are often operating from a place of fear. Fear of ageing and fear of dying.

So the next few blogs will be about these subjects and to explain my next steps in the adventure of supporting people in these areas.

Watch this space.

Namaste

life journal

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

The Attitude of Gratitude with Ageing.

ConsciousAgingLogoOne of the things that is frequently said about the older or even late middle age population is that they are Grumpy.

But it doesnt have to be that way.

Practice the Attitude of Gratitude and see what happens.

This can work both ways. When someone or something is affecting your day or peace of mind, just thank God that perhaps you will learn something from the experience.

OK some of you may think that this is New ageist stuff and laugh, but it works!

With practice it can become a habit. You may still feel irritated or want to react at first, but the time between the incident and the realisation that you don’t have to re-act, gets shorter as time goes on.

The secret is in realising that there is a difference between reacting and responding.

You don’t have to be a doormat and let every one walk over you, but the old saying of counting to ten works.

You can let them know that you don’t like something if you must, but the practice of counting to ten gives you the breathing space.

Afterwards, just do what’s next, walk away, look out of the window, relax and just say to yourself that you are grateful for this experience and even the person or object concerned.

Wow! you may think this is stupid, impossible or too airy fairy, but I know it works because as time goes on I am getting better at it.

Believe me when I say that I have people and situations in my life when I have to!

Try it next time. You’ll end up with a smile on your face, instead of raised blood pressure and grumpiness on your part.

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

002

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

Food; Friend, Fun or Foe?

christmas2012 009

 

For over forty years, I considered myself a victim. To;

  • My Self Image
  • My ugly body
  • The fat on my body
  • Foods that just triggered me off
  • A compulsion to just carry on eating, even when fullSodDieting
  • Dieting to get rid of the fat and feelings of loathing
  • Calorie counting
  • Fat units
  • Food intolerance
  • Addiction
  • My fat belly

It took me nearly a life time to discover the root of why I have always had this battle. One of them being that as a child I was always being told to tuck my tummy in, and as a 14 year old I was issued with a corset to keep it in.

This message was not only coming to me from my Mother, but from my gran and also a teacher at school who was the ring leader in calling me GubGub after the pig in Dr Dolittles adventures.

I don’t blame any of them now, but I did for a long time, even of I was unaware of it.

Many new regimes of eating in our modern days, look at the physical side of control. But there is another deeper side to it all. Much like trying to run a car that keeps breaking down. Just filling it with more fuel, or a different type of fuel, will not fix the problem if it is the battery that is flat. So it is with humans. If we keep just thrusting down feelings, memories and resentment, we will never get to the root of the problem. Our batteries will always be flat.

Getting into the right place is not necessarily just about looking great. When we have an “inner” glow, we can look fantastic.

Part of my inner work that freed me up was forgiveness for all those people who gave me a false message, which I lived by.

I have had quite a journey over the years, some of it exciting, some not, but always challenging.

It is a wonderful thing to be free of the tyranny of forever worrying about my shape and my looks.

How do you go about finding that inner glow, which gives you confidence in yourself, and frees you up from the necessity of the “Forever Diet?”

I would love to hear your comments.

Either here, or perhaps on my Facebook page.

https://www.facebook.com/PatriciaCherryWriterandLifeCoach

SodDieting

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B011L100OC

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B011L100OC

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

Have we got Ageing Sussed?

 

banner-790x90

 

Last week I spent one day with an iStock_000002366515Smallageing friend, who like me is full of vitality, vigour and still seeing the future as a time of growth and excitement.

Yes our physical bodies are certainly slowing down, but our joy is in the mind and spirit, which in turn makes those physical bodies glow. The lights are not gone out yet. We still keep those physical bodies active with walking or going to the gym and watching what we eat.

We have been close friends now for over forty years. We have both been “through the mill” so to speak, with bringing up three kids, divorce, second marraiges and many of the other things that happen in life. Thus building up a rich tapestry of experience and becoming Wise Elders.

We are both in a position where we want to make a difference to the world, supporting people through lifes challenges.

We reflected once again on an evening thirty years ago when we were as usual discussing how we were doing, wondering what the future would hold, over a glass of wine, (and a cigarette, because were both smokers in those days) and we both remember saying “I wonder if we will have it sussed when we are 60!

Well here we are, now hovering around 70. Guess what.

Fireworks and Gemmas 2013 016We have got a lot sussed, but we both take pleasure in the knowledge that we will actually never get it completely sussed. Simply because we are both so in love with living, that we will always find something else to be sussed.

Is this you? Or will you spend the rest of your life thinking that now that you have got it sussed, you will settle for where you are.

Nothing wrong with that of course, many people have lived such a busy hectic life that all they do want is a quiet life.

Just a word of warning though, in order to stay healthy, vital and full of joy, it is always good to be willing to make necessary changes, and have something else to be sussed!

You can still do this simply by making sure that you are aware and conscious in mind, body and spirit, while having the quiet life.

Watch this space. I still have ideas taking form. There are still things happening for me every single day, that bring challenges and inspiration.

Would you like to be so in love with life?

I for one, just want to be a means of support for people who want to stay on the road to getting it sussed.

So, have you got it sussed? I haven’t, and don’t want to yet.

Join us for more on the Faebook page.

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

 

 

happycherry_cover

 

FacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmailFacebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail