A New Relationship With Food.

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My new relationship with food.

Many of you will know that I see myself as an expert on food issues and addictions to certain food.

I have written books about it and numerous blogs and even designed a workbook to help people. A lot of my work has been entitled around “What does food mean to you?”

I am an expert because I have been obsessed with food and weight issues for nearly fifty years. And that means that an awful lot of calories, pounds and food has passed my lips.

My bulimia has been anything from living on virtually nothing to eating an entire loaf of bread spread with butter and jam in an afternoon.

Seven years ago, I came across a diet that made sense to me. This way of eating helped me to break away from sugar and carbohydrate addiction, by controlling my intake of those foods.

But, it was all coming from the outside; in. Even though this diet made sense, and there was loads of support, conferences and a forum. As well as the books, recipes and menus, seven years later I have still fallen back occasionally to the old ways. I have still fallen back into the habit of being obsessed with my body weight.

In the last seven years too, I have been working on my personal and spiritual self. It has been quite a trip.

In fact, when I sometimes read the stuff that I have written, I wonder if it was me that wrote it. But at present, I seem to be in a phase where I am catching up with my own advice.

In the last two months, I have been reading, learning, studying and practising with a chap called Dr Joe Dispenza. He has written several books, but I started with one called “Breaking the Habit of Being You.”

He explains that no matter how hard we try if we don’t change our thinking and core beliefs about ourselves, we cannot change the ingrained habits of our way of thinking.

Changing our thinking has been talked about over the years, in connection with Spiritual development. We hear about the Law of Attraction, Quantum theory and the laws of the Universe.

Yet all of these will not work completely unless we are willing to meet them halfway. This can be with illness, lack, addictions, broken relationships, and so on.

JD has gone a step further and explained HOW we could change our thinking, by changing our brains.

When I started to read his books, I became aware of the large amount of headspace my food issues was filling up. I had often tried to change my thinking around several shifts that I have wanted to make in my life. But somehow there has been something lacking.

For me and countless others, Joe has hit the proverbial nail on the head.

If you want to know more, you would have to listen to him on YouTube or read his books. But basically, he works on using the brain, body and mind together, by meditation. Choosing what you want to change, you then do the meditation, and state your intention.

He explains in details why it works, and at his seminars and workshops, you can see the activity in the brain, on the EEG machines that he uses. It is all carried out scientifically and not just pseudoscience.

So, I began carrying out his instructions, and now, two months later I am finding that my attitude to food is changing dramatically.

For example, I am now eating a lot less and satisfied quicker. I am enjoying my food, and am not afraid of it anymore. When fear sets in I simply say the word “Change.”  Doing this brings my awareness to what I am doing and why. I am no longer in the fridge or cupboard wondering what to eat between meals.

I am bringing foods into the house that I would not have before. Yes, there is still a way to go with that because there are still some foods that I fear will bring on a binge. But that will change with continual everyday meditation and choose to use the word change when I find myself in the food cupboard, and I am not hungry.

Most surprising is that I find that given a choice between eating what I know is good for me, and some other food that I have banned from my diet in the past, I am actually choosing the good food.

I surrendered my anxiety over what I eat because I was still in a kind of diet trap. I was still using the diet to control me, instead of allowing my body to say what it wants.

There are probably people who are thinking, “If I did that I would be totally out of control because the sugar would trigger me off.”

I was saying that too until I decided that I wanted to change enough to make a difference in my life. In the past, I would have been afraid to let go, because the addiction was controlling me.

But now I realise that I want to have dominion over my body.  Which has not meant that I am dictating to it what it has, but because I am also respecting its needs, my body is responding with “Thank you for listening to me, I can now let you know what I want!”

And rewarding me for making me aware of the times when if I fancy something sweet, I can have it. Without the fear of losing control.

For many years I have been cooking separate meals for myself and my husband. I still do occasionally, because there are some things that he likes that I don’t.

But there have too many occasions when I have cooked separate meals, and simply do not want mine, and yet would fancy his. It dawned on me that perhaps I would be healthier if I had a little of what I have cooked for him rather than sitting down to something I don’t fancy. Why go on torturing myself, because I am afraid of food!

People with weight, self-image and food problems, have a complicated relationship with food. I have been telling myself all those years that I love food. But the constant input from various diets and slimming clubs has made me afraid of it.

We hear so much about what is good for you, or what is not so good. The media bring mixed messages to people, no wonder we get confused.

We all need to eat. We need to eat nourishing foods and enjoy them. Above all, we need “Soul Food!”

That means that we need to nourish our mind, body and soul. Eating out with friends is a good example of that. Are you eating out with them because of the food, or because of their company?

When I have been not eating particular foods in the past, I have felt almost cast aside. Now I can just eat a little of what the others eat and just be seen as having a small appetite.

Are you eating something that has been slung together for the sake of satisfying your physical hunger? Or are you eating something that has been lovingly prepared?

Yes, there are times when we are in a hurry and may turn to some fast food. But that does not mean that it cannot be nourishing.

However, I digress. The point is that I have realised a wonderful change in my attitude to food and my body since I began the meditations with Joe. It is not Joe that is making the difference, but my intention of making the change. He simply gave me the tools.

I am making good use of those tools, I know that I have a way to go, fifty years of dieting and not eating certain foods, will not be changed overnight. But the important thing is that I am now aware of what the problem has been.

If you are stuck in any area of your life and want to change it, whether that is lack, addiction, or an illness, take a look at Joe Dispenza. I am aware that he is not the only person teaching quantum, but his teachings have hit the spot for me.

Joe Dispenza has written, “Evolve the Brain.”  “Breaking the Habit of Being You.” “The Placebo Effect”.

Recently he wrote “Becoming Supernatural”, and he is touring the world presenting a workshop on it. I am looking forward to attending his London workshop on April 14th. 2018.

 

 

 

 

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Macular Degeneration and Diet.

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Firstly let me tell you my story.

I was diagnosed with the early signs of Age-related Macular Degeneration four years ago. At a regular eye test, the Optician told me that I had something called Drusen, which appeared as little white fatty spots on the picture of the back of my eye. He advised me that I should take supplements which he recommended and so I did that.

Being of a tenacious nature and having an enquiring mind, I began to do my own research about this condition and also found out what support was available.

The news was not good because AMD is apparently un-reversible and steadily gets worse. It is genetic and often caused by smoking. The advice was also to eat plenty of greens stuff, and the jury was out on supplements.

Two years down the line after having new prescription lenses and finding that they did not help my vision, I went to the University in Plymouth, where I had volunteered to be a guinea pig for students, and they found a layer of Wet behind the macula. I was sent straight away to the Eye Infirmary, where they said that it was not yet bad enough for treatment (injections in the eye) but that they would monitor it and start injections when it deteriorated to a crucial stage.

Meanwhile, I was experiencing a great deal of stress in my life, which I will not go into here.

On the positive side, the wet was not getting any worse. I was also watching what I eat, and kept mostly to a natural diet, not eating much of the refined and processed products that pretend to be food these days.

Then, in October last year, the source of the stress left my life. In December I went to the Eye Infirmary who told me that they would not need to see me for another three months as opposed to the usual four weeks, because there was still no change, and they would be discharging me on my next visit if there wasn’t any further change. (I found out from the University that it meant that the wet MD was not getting worse.)

On my last visit to the University two weeks ago, they did a scan, and found that the wet had disappeared!  Apparently, the effects that stress can have on Wet AMD is not very well researched or recognised. But the tutor said that she would be telling researchers about my case.

To sum up then; my vision is a lot better. The wet has disappeared. The progression is not as much as was first feared. None of this is my imagination because it is there on the scans. I am now using the distance vision glasses again and managing a lot better.

I claim that the reasons are; because I eat a healthy diet; I do not take expensive synthetic supplements anymore; The enormous stress has disappeared from my life; And I practice Spiritual (not religious) development.

Dr Zoe Harcombe, with whom I developed my way of healthy eating has just sent me this link;
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AJCLB3D-2cE

It is a talk by a Chris Knobbe.MD. And just about sums up what my own experience with MD is except for the stress factor.

He has been studying the effect on AMD from our appalling modern diet. He gives correlation studies on this.

I could tell you what he says, but the best way for you to find out is to watch the video. It is quite literally an eye-opener.

He does not claim that we can all repair our eyes, but what he looks at is how we can prevent it and reverse it in the early stages with a natural ancient way of eating.

The four main culprits that are very significant in our modern diets, starting from the early sixties are; White flour, Vegetable oils, trans fats, and sugar.

If you think about it, those are the ingredients in our modern day diet of mainly processed foods.  

In the USA the food intake percentages are; Plant foods, 12%: Animal Foods 25% and Processed foods 63%.

He shows the correlation between the increase in these processed foods and MD, from very few cases in the 1920’s to the present day prevalence of it.

He gives a list of diseases that are increasing in the countries that have these monster foods, among these diseases are; diabetes, heart disease, stroke, cancer, Alzheimer’s, Obesity and autoimmune diseases. All are amounting to something called metabolic syndrome. Now, with his lengthy research and correlated findings he wants to see MD added to that list.

Because of my own experience, I believe him. I left off the supplements last September and increased my daily intake of green foods. I eat a good diet, and I am aware of my emotional and mental conditions too.

In case you are wondering about my diet, I will say that before seven years ago, I was consuming a lot of the four foods he mentions. White flour, sugar, vegetable oils and trans fats, loomed large in my way of eating. I was a victim of the slimming diet industry, and yes; diet foods contain these ingredients. I dieted on and off for over forty years until I discovered how to eat for my health.

Which reminds me; a lot of Baby Boomers are the ones who were told to eat low-fat foods. That advice happened in the late 1970’s when we were all foxed into becoming low fat eaters. The food industry jumped on the wagon, and it has become conventional to avoid fat.

For the last seven years, I have mostly kept to a natural diet. I eat very small amounts of sugar or even sweeteners. I base my intake on plenty of plant foods and vegetables, one piece of fruit a day, natural yoghurt, (not low fat) animal products, eggs and some amount of natural fats such as butter, olive oil and coconut oil, nuts and seeds. I eat very little in the way of bread but have quinoa and a small amount of rice or oats.

These foods have become my normal way of eating.

Please have a look at the video, before you make any comments or judgements. I do not claim to know it all, but Chris Knobbe.MD, and Dr Harcombe and a good many other researchers and authors certainly know enough for the authorities and many medical professionals to sit up and start to take notice.  

If you want to read any further about a healthy and natural way of eating, and why, the following list of authors have written extensively about the subject. Just google them!

Dr Zoe Harcombe; Robert Lustig; Gary Taubes; Dr Verner Wheelock; and much more about the damage that sugar and our faulty way of eating in the 21st century.

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Who are They?

025The Elderly are not they.

Children are not they.

People with different colored skin are not they.

People from other countries are not they.

The rich are not they.

The poor are not they.

Disabled people are not they.

Beautiful people are not they.

Ugly people are not they.

I could go on with many categories that seem to seperate us all. But the point to remember is that they are us!

We are part of the whole. Part of the Universe.

Each of us has been placed in our corner of the world. Some may move around, others may stay in one place.

Some may be in the limelight. Others may go about their lives in a quiet way and only known and recognised by a few.

When we talk about people, or refer to them as “they,” remember that we are all one body. All one piece of a massive energy.Galaxy

We were all once babies. If we survive illnesses or remain healthy we will be old one day. We could become disabled.

Our perception is the only difference in how we notice the colour of our skin or whether we are beautiful or not. We may consider ourself rich or we may consider ourself poor.

 Everything is relative, everything is part of a whole.

We were all born and we are all going to die.

None of us knows what tomorrow, or even today will bring. Anyone of us could suddenly become “they” and things can change in an instant.

Or if we don’t become they, we could grow close to someone and be a huge part their lives and no longer feel seperate.

Therefore we need to love one another as we love ourselves. Not judge others, but put yourself in their place and try and understand what it would be like to be in their shoes.

You may be in them tomorrow!

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I Intend to be Wise with “The Silver Tent.”

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Are you reaching the age of 50 and feeling uncertain and scared about what the future holds? 

Or you maybe among women who are in denial, and saying that they refuse to think about themselves as ageing.

You may be holding back the grey, having surgery, dressing young, using expensive anti-wrinkle cream and so on.

But guess what? There is nothing wrong with you whatever you do!

I belong to a worldwide group called “The Silver Tent.” The purpose and vision of its founder Francesca Cassini are to have over a million women in this group.

At the moment “The Silver Tent” is being launched, and today 23rd April 2017, is day two of the Launch Summit.

I have just listened to the fourth speaker, Lynn McTaggart, author of “The Field” and “The Intention Experiment”, being interviewed by Francesca. Lynns experiments and writing are about how Intentions work. Or how our thoughts are strong enough to bring about intentions. Whether with negative or positive thinking.

We also heard about the power of collective intentions.

Francesca and Lynn and one of the speakers yesterday spoke about how “The Siver Tent” can be a power for change throughout the world by joining up into one big group throughout, on the internet, or it could be called the innernet, and in local physical groups wherever you are.

This group and many others, for young and older women are showing how the Dalai Lamas words spoken nearly twenty years ago now, are coming into fruition.

“The world will be saved by the Western Women”

We are built up by women who want to see a change in the world. The over fifties in general have done their bit with children and no longer have to be bogged under with running the household. Many of them are looking for a challenge or a change.

Many of them are starting in business, or becoming writers, or even enjoying taking care of Grandchildren. Some of them have gained diplomas or degrees. In this group, you will learn that it is not too late whatever your intentions are.

You will also learn the way to remain vital, healthy and vivacious in mind, body and spirit.

You will learn the joy of knowing that because you are mature you are also wiser.

And you will learn that it is no cause for worry or upset when your body starts to show signs of ageing. If you are beginning to be limited in energy, movement or physical vitality, there is no cause for alarm.

You do not have to compare yourself to other older women that you see on the internet who are still able to sit in a difficult yoga position or can dance the night away, or can still do a hundred and one push-ups.

Fine if you can, and fine if you can’t. Most of them have been doing it all their lives.

Just as a little footnote I didn’t begin doing Kundalini Yoga until the beginning of this year. I also know someone the same age as me who started last year and it supported her in coming off anit-depressents. Now she has a new lease of life.

I love this community of women, all coming together under “The Silver Tent.” and I am blogging this because I feel so compassionate about the vision and purpose of it.

We are there for each other. Some discussions are funny and others are more serious. It’s fun to ask what others do in any given situation, and expect honest and open answers.

If you want to view the summit here is the link.

https://thesilvertent.com/launch-summit/

Listen to it and be presently surprised at what you find. They are a bunch of women with intention.

Are you?

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Ageing is not just about “ME”

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In my previous blog, we discussed Ageing with Intention.

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It has occurred to me that we could misunderstand the true purpose of ageing with intention, ageing with consciousness or ageing with vitality.

The world is becoming a very challenging place in which to live. It has always been challenging of course, but life was much simpler and up until as recently as 100 years ago, life for most of us was within the boundaries of our physical locality.

Certainly, I can remember as a child just sixty years ago, thinking of the world outside as a dangerous and threatening place. I had not even visited London, which was just 250 miles away, until the age of 14.

Our biggest challenge in those days was to leave school and get a decent job. Our social life was the Saturday night out, usually at the local dance hall. These were the days of rock and roll, coffee bars and the cinema.

These days, we travel worldwide. On returning from holiday only last week, I remember remarking to my friend, “I’m worn out, and I have only travelled from Germany!”  Only travelled from Germany? In one day, coach, plane and train!  Even as I said it, I thought how ridiculous that remark was in the light of the progress humans have made in the last 72 years since I came to this planet.

During the days of the Baby Boomers, life has changed out of all recognition. Those of you reading this as Baby Boomers will know what I mean.

Ageing too has changed for the better.

We have cosmetic surgery, enlightened ways of eating, makeup, groups on Facebook about anti-ageing. Creams, supposedly to help avoid wrinkles, and so on.

But these things are only tackling ageing on the outside.

What about our inner beings? What about the spirit and soul?

There is a shift going on. It is difficult to pinpoint when this shift started. But people began to be disillusioned by the teachings and practice of the church.

They began to see that consumerism is not working. Things were not giving the satisfaction that they imagined it would.

During the 1960’s the notion of the power of love began to take hold. At the time it was seen by our parents as “way out”, or of the devil, it would never last. Drugs were involved, and so the love movement took on something that was evil, way out and needed to be nipped in the bud.

The consequence of this was that drugs took on a powerful means of money making, smuggling, murder and other dire consequences. Young people now live in a world where drugs are sold behind counters in pubs and clubs, as a means of having a good time. Drugs then lead to more crime, misery and death to ordinary people. Life took on a much bigger challenge for these young people.

But, there was another, a better consequence of the love movement.

Love is energy.

Young people began to go to places like India seeking out spiritual masters who taught about the meaning of love. John Lennon was famous for many songs, but the songs “Give Peace a Chance” and “Imagine” came from somewhere deep inside of him. He had been to India too and sat at the feet of a spiritual master.

Skip forward to the present day, and there are many teachers coming forward with inspirational teachings.

So, what has all this got to do with the fact that ageing with vitality is not all about “me”?

In my previous articles, I spoke about ageing with intention and being a wise elder.

When we make a mission out of ageing, with purpose, intention and in a conscious manner, we are doing our bit in our little corner of the world to make life more peaceful and joyous for those coming behind.

By example we can show them that although we have been through tough times, may even be ill, may be physically challenged, they can still expect to learn from us, that there is no room for bitterness and unforgiveness.

In my work with Elderly people, in homes and their own homes, I have seen the effect that people have on the carers and their families and themselves.

One old lady had lost one leg, her breasts and was blind. Yet we loved looking after her because she used to cheer us up. She used to joke that they would save money on her funeral because they would only be burying half of her.

On the other hand, one old chap used to swear and curse us, and we dreaded taking care of him. We learnt afterwards that he had been a man who had abused his family. The point is that it was he who needed to look within. Even though he was living in misery, we still gave him the care that he needed. We did not punish him; he was punishing himself.

Giving and receiving are the same energy.

So to sum up, the point of getting ourselves sorted out while we are still able to, is not just for ourselves, but for the sake of the world at large. We are part of the Universe. The Universe is one big, vast cosmos, everything in it is energy, and you too are made up of that same energy.

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So can you see that ageing with intention or vitality in a conscious way, is our part of the whole plan?

It is not just about me.

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Ageing with Intention. (Aging)

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A dictionary definition of the word intention is;

An act or instance of determining upon some action or result.

Another definition of the word used by Wayne Dyer who was a great teacher of all things in mind, body and spirit are;

Intention is a field of energy that flows invisibly beyond the reach of our normal, everyday habitual patterns.

Both of these definitions will suit the purpose of this article, which is going to be about our intentions in our ageing process.

Yesterday we talked about surrendering ourselves to the process of ageing. That surrender needs to be done gracefully, with love to ourselves and others and peacefully.

This can be done by ageing with intention.

Intention is a field of energy just like love, determination, fear, and so on. If you look at the blogs on my website for July and August 2015, you will find several articles or blogs on using the Law of Attraction in our ageing process. The Laws of the Universe can be likened to these energies. In short, what you believe is what you get.

So we can use this energy of intention to age with purpose, peace, love and joy.

If we go into our older years, expecting trouble then that is what we will get.

Many of the problems of getting older are real, they are there, and we cannot escape them. It is what we do with these problems and how we deal with them that counts.  In other words, it is our perception that is the key. Along with our intention. 

I hear jokes from people saying that they are “going to make life as difficult as possible for my children as I age!” Another one-liner coming from many Baby Boomers these days is “I’m spending all the children’s inheritance!”

Whether you do or you don’t, let’s consider what difference having an intention can make.

My own intention is to be a Wise Elder to my children, friends, neighbours, grandchildren (if they give me a chance!) I also enjoy writing articles and sharing lots of positive stuff on Social Media. I love the internet and try to use it wisely.

I follow people who I know can teach me something. I do not pretend to know it all, we all learn something every day if we keep an open mind.

Did you know that learning is the best thing that you can do for the health of your brain?

We can also learn from our past. We are constantly told to forget the past, it’s gone, just look to the future.

I am not saying to dwell in the past, or even to blame our past for how we feel now. Some people go through life as the hurt or damaged child and just stay there.

My suggestion is that we can go into our past with a new intention.

Seeing our past as an experience that will help our children and younger people, is a lot different to dwelling in the past and calling the past “The Good Old Days.”

When young people see us “wrinklies” it is easy for them to dismiss us as past it, or too old to understand. But when I recently told a younger person about my experience of bringing up kids alone as a Naval wife, divorce, betrayal and caringsupportwhbankruptcy, they were astonished. And realised that I had been there, and I know what it is like. I was able to identify with what she was going through, and although I would never completely understand, I knew enough to help.

Another intention of mine is to make my older years as full and enjoyable as possible. Starting with being grateful for everything I have, from being able to at least see most things, even though I have a sight problem. Being grateful for a roof over my head, even if it is not in a district that I would like to be. Being grateful that I could walk the extra mile this morning when the bus driver failed to stop at my usual bus stop. Yes, I was annoyed, but it did not take long for me to see the funny side of it, and I just said to her that she is obviously in another world, rather than complain to her.

There is so much to be grateful for. Have a look at this blog that I wrote twelve months ago for more on Ageing with Gratitude.

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com/category/ageing/page/2/

Notice again Wayne Dyer’s definition.

Intention is a field of energy that flows invisibly beyond the reach of our normal, everyday habitual patterns. 

Notice particularly. The words, beyond the reach of our normal, everyday habitual patterns.

We can make our older years the time to change those habitual patterns in our life. It is not too late. Keep reading and stay with me for more to come.

Start with this intention and you are on the road to having a happy and vital older age.

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Surrender to Age?

 

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As we go through our lives, we unconsciously make transitions through several changes in our lives.

But only unconsciously as we define it in our eyes.

Because in a lot of ways we make conscious decisions, or they are made for us.

When we are born, we are placed in the care of adults. We may be born to that adult, or they may adopt us in some way. In any case, we would not survive without being in the care of a responsible adult. Consequently, they are making decisions for us.

We are all greatly influenced by others decisions for us, but as we grow older, we start to realise that many of these decisions are not the ones which we would choose for ourselves. They have not been conscious, informed decisions.

So when we reach our teenage years, we can rebel. Often we rebel in a diverse way, far apart from anything that our carers think is the right thing.

We almost become strangers to ourselves. If we do not make a choice at this age, and just go along with the status quo, and what is expected of us, it will happen sooner or later.

I did not become aware that I had a choice until I turned forty years of age. When it did happen there were consequences that literally brought the roof down over my head! (Details will be in a book that I have decided to write!)

I did not “surrender to getting married, having children and being a good little Christian and housewife.  All the time that I was in this role, my spirit was rebelling. I was not submissive, although people around me were telling me I should be. What I did, was go along with the flow and “give in” to what I thought was expected of me. That was what good little women should do. I had been taught that if I went against the flow, there would be dire consequences. And so I lived in fear.

In my previous blog, I talked about the difference, with ageing,  between “giving in” and “surrender.”  I promised  I would tell you the difference.

My story above is a typical example. I will add that there were dire consequences, but, at the end of the day, I am so glad that I did not spend the rest of my life in a “giving in” and boring way. The life that I have had since I stopped giving in, has been exciting and I feel liberated.

When we know the truth, it will make us free!

We are ageing throughout our lives. In many cases, we are giving in, especially while we are children and naïve. Maturity brings wisdom. As we go through life, we start to make conscious choices, or not. Some people never make consious choices, and live their entire lives doing what is expected of them or “giving in.”

If we don’t make conscious choices, then we will just go along with or give in to what our peers or elders expect. We may smoke, drink or not. We may eat healthily or not. We may decide to have a baby because our friends have them. We may decide to have sex because everyone else seems to be doing it.

This is not surrendering, it is giving in to what is expected of us.

So what about retirement and the third age?

We expect to have certain illnesses. We are expected just to go on outings. We are expected to join the senior citizens club.

We have less energy, become forgetful, may need a stick, not see so well. Become hard of hearing.

We start to lose friends to death, or to Dementia.

We feel as if we are falling into an abyss of old age, and it can be frightening and depressing. BUT ONLY IF YOU ALLOW IT, BY JUST GIVING IN to what is expected.

Consequently as a younger person, usually in our late fifties or early sixties, we start to become aware of these things happening, and we become afraid, deny it is happening and try everything we can to avoid it.

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While we are in our sixties, we need to start planning ahead. Look at surrendering to ageing, with an intention.

If you are reading this as an older person, you can start to change things now.  It is never too late.

We can fight the older years, become stressed out with the battle, and make ourselves ill, frail, depressed or lonely.

OR, we can give in and go along with the flow of what is expected.

OR, best of all, we can surrender to the ageing process, but at the same time find out what our intention will be in our older years.

With intention, life in our older years can be a pleasure.

My next blog will be about how we can have intention in our older age, and see those years as Eldership, not just being old.

For more on Ageing with Vitality, go to http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

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Do we want to grow old?

 

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Do we want to grow old?

If not, what is the alternative?

Age is not a particularly interesting subject. Anyone can get old. All you have to do is live long enough.  Don Marquis

And it’s true, isn’t it?

This week was a very sad one when a friend of mine buried her 36-year-old daughter who had died of a brain tumour. Do you think the daughter would have liked to grow old? It was not easy for her to live long enough certainly.

Someone said to me recently “Don’t get old dear, it’s not nice.” I asked what the alternative would be, and she couldn’t find an answer. But we know, don’t we?

We, humans, are a funny lot don’t you think?

We want to live a long life, yet we spend most of that life fighting the business of ageing. And it starts in our late twenties. Many people of that age will live for another 70 years!! But as soon as there is the slightest sign of a grey hair or fine lines at the side of our eyes, we start to fight nature. Has it occurred to you that all we need to do is enjoy our lives, take good care of our bodies, and put ageing on the back burner. Believe me, it is going to happen, unless you die young!

Face Creams, Facelifts, anti-ageing products abound. How to stop the wrinkles, is the mainstay of many an advert to rob you of your money.

We want what we perceive is the ideal. Live a long life, but don’t age. Stay looking young, don’t have wrinkles, don’t go grey. When we have a colour we hear “Hey your hair looks great, makes you look a lot younger!”

Instead of learning about making the best of our latter years, we dread them. We treat them like a forbidden territory. We shun the thought of everything related to old age.

Many of us deny we will ever get old.

But until the day when there is a magic pill, we have to face that moment when we have to admit it is catching up with us.

The energy levels are not quite what they used to be. Bedtime gets earlier. We look in the mirror, and there is an older face in the way of the face we would like to see. We get back ache when standing too long. We notice people giving up their seats for us. (Yes! That does still happen.)

However, this does not mean that you have to give up and be old.

It does mean that you need to surrender, though.

Well, you may say, isn’t that the same thing as giving up?

The answer is a resounding “No.”

More about how to surrender to ageing tomorrow.

(And that does not mean surrendering to an old age that brings misery; quite the contrary.)

I hope that I have roused your curiosity.

For more on how to age consciously and with vitality, go to;

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

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What is Ageing with Vitality?

 

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In my corner of the world, Ageing with Vitality is to age consciously. 

Ron Pevny in his book “Conscious Ageing” says this;

Quote; It is about recognising, honouring, growing into, and working to embody the role of elder as a distinct life stage full of the potential for growth and service beyond midlife adulthood. 

Recognising the fact that your body is ageing, even if you think that your mind is not.

Honouring the fact that older is wiser. You have a lot to offer those who are following behind. You are not yet in your grave and have a lot to offer. And honouring yourself for everything that you have learnt and dealt with in your life before now.

Growing into the beauty and wisdom of old age, gracefully and to surrender to that with joy, peace and love.

Seeing the older years as another life stage, just like leaving school, getting married, having kids and starting a new career. As an older person, you can be without the pressures of having to earn a living. You can relax and enjoy life and be as healthy as you can within the boundaries of a weakened and older body.

In the next series of blogs, I will be looking at these issues and also cover again some of the issues raised in my blogs from July 2015 about ageing.

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How old do you feel?

 

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Are you feeling your age?

Many people as they grow older claim that they still feel young inside their heads.

The body seems to age, but the mind does not so much.

But how old do you feel?

Is time such an important thing after all?

Time is an idea. There is no such thing. We use it to measure experience and to keep things under control on the planet. We would have no co-ordination without it, and life would be very difficult certainly in the modern age.

But imagine if you were a pre-historic person. You would sleep when it’s dark and be awake when it is light. In the northern hemisphere, you would be awake at 4.30 am in the summer and sleep until 9 am in the winter. But it would not worry you or concern you because you would simply be flowing by your instincts.

You would not be horrified when the kids wake you up because it’s light and it’s only 5 am and they would still be running around at 10 pm with no worries.

So it is with age.

Which comes first?

We age and, therefore, feel old and allow ourselves to be so, and say that we have this or that illness or pain because of that.

Or we don’t give our age a second thought when we have an illness and just get on with what we have to do?

Yes, the body does slow down, and it may have to remind you of the fact that it can’t function in the same way as when you were twenty. But the key is, that it would have to “remind”  you because you are so absorbed in other things, and not just sitting and thinking about your age.

If there were no such thing as time would you feel healthier?

Are you a victim of your age?

People can be ill, die or in pain at any age. So why let it be the age factor that rules our thinking and the way that we live.

Energy levels do drop, but they will not drop quite so quickly if you live a healthy lifestyle. This includes staying away from junk foods, sugary foods and only eat what I call “real food”.

Keeping active, and I don’t mean vigorous exercise, just make sure that you keep moving. Walking is an excellent way to do this.

Life can be exciting at any age. Whether you are six, sixty or eighty, life is still full of abundance, creativity, allure and fresh starts.

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