A New Relationship With Food.

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My new relationship with food.

Many of you will know that I see myself as an expert on food issues and addictions to certain food.

I have written books about it and numerous blogs and even designed a workbook to help people. A lot of my work has been entitled around “What does food mean to you?”

I am an expert because I have been obsessed with food and weight issues for nearly fifty years. And that means that an awful lot of calories, pounds and food has passed my lips.

My bulimia has been anything from living on virtually nothing to eating an entire loaf of bread spread with butter and jam in an afternoon.

Seven years ago, I came across a diet that made sense to me. This way of eating helped me to break away from sugar and carbohydrate addiction, by controlling my intake of those foods.

But, it was all coming from the outside; in. Even though this diet made sense, and there was loads of support, conferences and a forum. As well as the books, recipes and menus, seven years later I have still fallen back occasionally to the old ways. I have still fallen back into the habit of being obsessed with my body weight.

In the last seven years too, I have been working on my personal and spiritual self. It has been quite a trip.

In fact, when I sometimes read the stuff that I have written, I wonder if it was me that wrote it. But at present, I seem to be in a phase where I am catching up with my own advice.

In the last two months, I have been reading, learning, studying and practising with a chap called Dr Joe Dispenza. He has written several books, but I started with one called “Breaking the Habit of Being You.”

He explains that no matter how hard we try if we don’t change our thinking and core beliefs about ourselves, we cannot change the ingrained habits of our way of thinking.

Changing our thinking has been talked about over the years, in connection with Spiritual development. We hear about the Law of Attraction, Quantum theory and the laws of the Universe.

Yet all of these will not work completely unless we are willing to meet them halfway. This can be with illness, lack, addictions, broken relationships, and so on.

JD has gone a step further and explained HOW we could change our thinking, by changing our brains.

When I started to read his books, I became aware of the large amount of headspace my food issues was filling up. I had often tried to change my thinking around several shifts that I have wanted to make in my life. But somehow there has been something lacking.

For me and countless others, Joe has hit the proverbial nail on the head.

If you want to know more, you would have to listen to him on YouTube or read his books. But basically, he works on using the brain, body and mind together, by meditation. Choosing what you want to change, you then do the meditation, and state your intention.

He explains in details why it works, and at his seminars and workshops, you can see the activity in the brain, on the EEG machines that he uses. It is all carried out scientifically and not just pseudoscience.

So, I began carrying out his instructions, and now, two months later I am finding that my attitude to food is changing dramatically.

For example, I am now eating a lot less and satisfied quicker. I am enjoying my food, and am not afraid of it anymore. When fear sets in I simply say the word “Change.”  Doing this brings my awareness to what I am doing and why. I am no longer in the fridge or cupboard wondering what to eat between meals.

I am bringing foods into the house that I would not have before. Yes, there is still a way to go with that because there are still some foods that I fear will bring on a binge. But that will change with continual everyday meditation and choose to use the word change when I find myself in the food cupboard, and I am not hungry.

Most surprising is that I find that given a choice between eating what I know is good for me, and some other food that I have banned from my diet in the past, I am actually choosing the good food.

I surrendered my anxiety over what I eat because I was still in a kind of diet trap. I was still using the diet to control me, instead of allowing my body to say what it wants.

There are probably people who are thinking, “If I did that I would be totally out of control because the sugar would trigger me off.”

I was saying that too until I decided that I wanted to change enough to make a difference in my life. In the past, I would have been afraid to let go, because the addiction was controlling me.

But now I realise that I want to have dominion over my body.  Which has not meant that I am dictating to it what it has, but because I am also respecting its needs, my body is responding with “Thank you for listening to me, I can now let you know what I want!”

And rewarding me for making me aware of the times when if I fancy something sweet, I can have it. Without the fear of losing control.

For many years I have been cooking separate meals for myself and my husband. I still do occasionally, because there are some things that he likes that I don’t.

But there have too many occasions when I have cooked separate meals, and simply do not want mine, and yet would fancy his. It dawned on me that perhaps I would be healthier if I had a little of what I have cooked for him rather than sitting down to something I don’t fancy. Why go on torturing myself, because I am afraid of food!

People with weight, self-image and food problems, have a complicated relationship with food. I have been telling myself all those years that I love food. But the constant input from various diets and slimming clubs has made me afraid of it.

We hear so much about what is good for you, or what is not so good. The media bring mixed messages to people, no wonder we get confused.

We all need to eat. We need to eat nourishing foods and enjoy them. Above all, we need “Soul Food!”

That means that we need to nourish our mind, body and soul. Eating out with friends is a good example of that. Are you eating out with them because of the food, or because of their company?

When I have been not eating particular foods in the past, I have felt almost cast aside. Now I can just eat a little of what the others eat and just be seen as having a small appetite.

Are you eating something that has been slung together for the sake of satisfying your physical hunger? Or are you eating something that has been lovingly prepared?

Yes, there are times when we are in a hurry and may turn to some fast food. But that does not mean that it cannot be nourishing.

However, I digress. The point is that I have realised a wonderful change in my attitude to food and my body since I began the meditations with Joe. It is not Joe that is making the difference, but my intention of making the change. He simply gave me the tools.

I am making good use of those tools, I know that I have a way to go, fifty years of dieting and not eating certain foods, will not be changed overnight. But the important thing is that I am now aware of what the problem has been.

If you are stuck in any area of your life and want to change it, whether that is lack, addiction, or an illness, take a look at Joe Dispenza. I am aware that he is not the only person teaching quantum, but his teachings have hit the spot for me.

Joe Dispenza has written, “Evolve the Brain.”  “Breaking the Habit of Being You.” “The Placebo Effect”.

Recently he wrote “Becoming Supernatural”, and he is touring the world presenting a workshop on it. I am looking forward to attending his London workshop on April 14th. 2018.

 

 

 

 

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Do you wonder why you get drawn in every year to the mad mad feasting over Christmas, then Fast or starve for the New year?

Every year is the same isn’t it? Beginning around the first of December, it is “Eat drink and be Merry, for January 1st; we DIET!”

How many of you are swearing that you will never do it again? That you will go on a diet to end all diets, and never put on weight again.

But there is a way out of this never ending cycle. Where you can enjoy your food; all food, but understand your body and what it really wants.

These two books will set you on the path of freedom from dieting. They will also point out why we are all in this state of health in the twently first century. How to sort out the conflicting advice, and decide for yourself, with some knowledge of why you are in the trap, and what is best for you. It seems that every writer, club or expert, claims that their diet is the way to go. But these two books will make you become aware of why we behave as we do around food.

They are not special diet books, nor do they tell you what you should eat. They simply inform you of the politics of Dieting and also how food has evolved into the state it is in now.

Once you become aware of how you are being driven to eat the foods that you know are not contributing to good health, then you are on the track to food freedom.

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Food; Friend, Fun or Foe?

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For over forty years, I considered myself a victim. To;

  • My Self Image
  • My ugly body
  • The fat on my body
  • Foods that just triggered me off
  • A compulsion to just carry on eating, even when fullSodDieting
  • Dieting to get rid of the fat and feelings of loathing
  • Calorie counting
  • Fat units
  • Food intolerance
  • Addiction
  • My fat belly

It took me nearly a life time to discover the root of why I have always had this battle. One of them being that as a child I was always being told to tuck my tummy in, and as a 14 year old I was issued with a corset to keep it in.

This message was not only coming to me from my Mother, but from my gran and also a teacher at school who was the ring leader in calling me GubGub after the pig in Dr Dolittles adventures.

I don’t blame any of them now, but I did for a long time, even of I was unaware of it.

Many new regimes of eating in our modern days, look at the physical side of control. But there is another deeper side to it all. Much like trying to run a car that keeps breaking down. Just filling it with more fuel, or a different type of fuel, will not fix the problem if it is the battery that is flat. So it is with humans. If we keep just thrusting down feelings, memories and resentment, we will never get to the root of the problem. Our batteries will always be flat.

Getting into the right place is not necessarily just about looking great. When we have an “inner” glow, we can look fantastic.

Part of my inner work that freed me up was forgiveness for all those people who gave me a false message, which I lived by.

I have had quite a journey over the years, some of it exciting, some not, but always challenging.

It is a wonderful thing to be free of the tyranny of forever worrying about my shape and my looks.

How do you go about finding that inner glow, which gives you confidence in yourself, and frees you up from the necessity of the “Forever Diet?”

I would love to hear your comments.

Either here, or perhaps on my Facebook page.

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Food; Friend or Foe?

 

 

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What does food mean to you?

Marc David of the Institute for Eating Psychology says “We are born, we eat, and then we die!”

A baby turns its head toward the nipple the moment it is born. Eating is the dynamic in life that drives us to work, hunt, gather, shop, farm and scavage. along with shelter it is the one thing that we have to do to stay alive.

But in the Western world, we have lost its true meaning. It is meant to nurture us, keep us healthy, vibrant, strong and well.

But now it has become something to fill us up, it is full of empty calories, is making us ill and for many Obese. Much of it is addictive, thanks to additives, sugar and Food technicians!

Feb March 2012 047Eating problems are brought about by starving because many people have become afraid of food, instead of seeing it as the staff of life.

Ageing brings about a natural reduction in appetite, so it is all the more important to make sure that you are getting enough nutritional food.

When visiting a local Residential Home for the Elderly I was amused to see that in the reception, there was a candy tree filled with toffees. The care assistant explained that people with dememtia often don’t eat. So the management have set up this tree so that at least they are getting some calories, even if it’s in the form of sugar. Brilliant! Because of course even if it is only sugar, at least they are getting some calories.

But she went on to tell me that the staff are amused when they watch the residents come to the tree, and their attitude is furtive. They glance around to see whether anyone is watching, then they take the sweet and put it in their mouths. While chewing they are looking to see where they can hide the paper!

So where did that come from I wonder?

The point is though, that we need to start making food our friend. Being afraid of it is the result of controversy over what we are eating, strict dieting and a bad body image.

Just enjoy your food. Make it your friend. Johns 21st Birthday 021

Eat as near to natural as your circumstances allow you to, according to your purse, your locality, and your ability to cook.

Younger people, start now to prepare for your older years, by doing the same. Lay up the foundation in your body for a healthy, vibrant ageing process.

 

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Fat is Good for Ageing Bodies!

 

 

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So what do I mean by Fat is Good?

Fat has been demonised for over thirty years now. During the 1980’s this demonisation was taken up by the Food and Diet Industry, and big bucks were made.

Yet it has never been proved that fat was bad, with the exception of transfats, which are toxic.

Baby Boomers, those born between 1945 and 1965 were the ones who became convinced that the only way to keep weight off and be healthy was to eat low fat foods. Later generations then inherited the myth and our stores are still full of low fat or fat free products.

People are often shocked when they hear that fat is not so bad after all, and somehow they cannot bring themselves to enjoy higher fat products.

I probably need to add that its the combination of fat, sugar and additives that are damaging peoples health, so don’t go lathering butter on your bread or malt loaf!

It is worth knowing that because many of us who were sucked into this myth, are suffering the results with early skin problems.

Did you know that fats and oils are ESSENTIAL to the body. Fatty acids are building blocks just like protein is.

They are beneficial to our skin, vision, brain function, bone density and hormone production.

Make sure they are healthy fats, and that includes butter! Contrary to popular belief saturated fat does not go straight to our arteries.

There is so much information now, much of it is contradictory, the media confuse people too. Do the research yourself and find out.

You will find out more by reading my book about the politics of dieting and food.

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Ageing and Calorie Restriction.

 

 

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Today I thought you may be interested in looking at the positive side of calorie restriction.

If you follow my writings and books, you will know that I advise people not to count calories.

However what I do say is that we need to be aware of them.

There are some regimes around that encourage people to just eat as much as they like as long as they eat natural foods, without any additives, or processing and have been adulterated out of all recognition of how food was meant to be consumed by humans.

This is so true!

Many people find that once they do eat naturally they do not crave more food than their body needs, so the amount of calories that they consume is reduced automatically.

This will work if you have never had problems with bingeing, sugar addiction, or eating disorders.

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As we grow older, the body naturally reduces the appetite. So therefore we need to trust what our body is telling us, and eat less.

Simples!

We all have a source within us that is not being heard or listened to.

As history has progressed and we have moved further away from nature and that source, we are losing the ability to be aware of what our body actually needs.

Have a look at how aware you are as you grow older.

One way of telling if you eat too much is whether you suffer from indigestion!

If you eat a moderate amount of natural foods then this will not happen.

(However the body may be suffering from digestive disorders because of the abuse we gave them with the onslaught earlier in life, even if we did not binge, but simply ate the wrong foods. It is never too late to change that.)

So when you hear about restrictive intake of calories, just remember that the essential thing is to;

  1. Be aware of what your body is telling you.
  2. Only eat natural wholesome foods.
  3. Stay away from sugary, starchy, processed junk.
  4. Watch your portions.
  5. Stop eating when you are full.

Then the calories will take care of themselves without going to the extreme measures of plates full of nothing but leaves!

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Sod Dieting, Just Eat!

 

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So what is it about? Simply; the politics of dieting.

We all have policies that we live by. Much of the time we don’t realise how these politics rule our lives. Our own as well as the people we depend on. Government bodies as well as the food and diet industries.

This book is for readers who want to lose weight because they think that maybe a few pounds lighter would make a big difference to their lives.

People who are obese or grossly overweight, may find it useful too, but the author’s main purpose is to help the ones who go on diet after diet, and their lives are under the tyranny of the scales. Their mood changes from good if the scales are a few pounds down, to not so good if the number has gone up.

Many fall into a pattern of bingeing and starving, because of the physical malnourishment of very low calories. Just as many also fail to recognise emotional needs and use food as a substitute.

It is not a diet book, it is an informative and insightful one on how to eat a healthy diet and stay away from restrictive calorie counting and permanent hunger for the rest of your life.

It is a how-to book on avoiding the pitfalls that people can fall into with watching their weight.

The author is an expert, because after being a chronic dieter for over forty years, she has now found a way to be free from the tyranny of the scales.

But because of all the past abuse of her body with bingeing one moment and putting on 28 pounds at a time, then starving the next and losing it over and over again, her body is now rebelling and she can eat very little to maintain it.

The reason why she has put the proverbial pen to paper is because her passion in life is to get the message across to people that dieting is a road full of potholes and it is not easy to avoid them if you persist in going on one diet after another.

The secret is to find a way of eating that suits you, the individual, and not someone else’s idea of what you should or should not eat. There are no rules, just an idea of making up your own. To keep portions low, not let yourself get hungry and eat only nourishing foods.

She has written two other books along the same lines, and you will find the first chapter of Sod Dieting is repeated in “Design Your Own Diet” which is on Amazon Kindle.

If you are a chronic dieter, you will find yourself identifying with much of what she has said and experienced. So read and enjoy and learn how you too can escape the everlasting tyranny of the scales and the constant obsession with what to eat.

Patricia is now a Life Coach, specialising in Making Diet; History. Your history. She also helps people to stop bingeing on food that is not nourishing, but just simply adding weight by consuming “empty calories”

Then when you find your liberation, you too can help others in turn to make their dieting into history. Thus spreading the word that in all the time we have been dieting, obesity and food issues are worse than they have ever been.

 

 

 

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Us and Them!

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We hear a lot about the environment ruining our health.

We hear a lot about the way that humans do not take care of the environment, and how it is ruining the state of the planet.

We blame the Food companies, Pharmaceutical companies, the Government, our doctors and on and on.

Always “Them” but how often do we look at “Us?”

But how willing are we to do something about it?

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Take health for example.

In the days of the internet, thousands of books, television and newspapers, we have all the information and knowledge that is available to us, yet many people just sit and claim that their ill health is someone else’s fault.

Claims are made that they are confused with conflicting advice. “They say one thing one minute and another the next” is heard so often in conversations.

Even articles in the newspaper can be confusing as we read them. Just this week I read an article on a new book about gut flora and obesity. Part of the article was to say that beer can be good, and the writer would have said something along the lines that beer has plenty of flora in it.

But the journalist then made his own little extra box, with the headline. “Good news; beer is ok!” and went on to say that wine and beer are healthy. Many people would not bother to find out what that was all about and claim that the paper said that it is ok for us drink alcohol.

The point that I am making here is that we all need to do our own research using the tools that I mentioned earlier.

You might then say that all this information can still be confusing.

I agree. So what to do?

Look within!

We have been given by nature and God, the ability to use our own wisdom and judgment. These days He has given us some fantastic tools to go along with that. Do you ever get a gut feeling about something?

You may be reading, or watching television, and you get this feeling that something is not quite right.

I bet that before now you have been talking to someone and you know that they are lying. Where do you think that feeling comes from? It is commonly known as our Gut feeling, or instinct or intuition. I have heard it called discernment too.

Or even more importantly how far within ourselves are we willing to look?

How willing are we to think, really think, about what could be the answer?

Do we just sit back and let others tell us what to do?

Do we just jump on the next seemingly good idea that comes along?

Then blame “them” when the diet fails, or we cannot stick to our new healthy way of living.

Another idea that springs to mind is the story of a famous runner, whose name escapes me, who, years ago encouraged many to take up jogging, then died of a heart attack. So many people then gave up running or would not take it up because it seemed that running was dangerous.

How many of those people actually bothered to find out the facts themselves?

Most of us have the ability to find out for ourselves what the truth is.

Then to follow our intuition about what is right for each one of us. Therein lies the key! We are all different and have different needs.

Not just on a level of “That sounds good, I’ll try that.”  But by finding out for ourselves and using our intuition.

So are you going to find out what is the truth and be conscious about your choice?

I will examine where consciousness comes into it on another blog. But maybe this one will give you food for thought.

You have the inner ability and wisdom to find out for yourself what is right for you!

 

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Do You Binge Eat?

 

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Binge eating is more common that you think.

BInge eating is usually done in secret.

Binge eaters are usually near normal weight.

This last one may be a surprise to know.

Obese people are usually compulsive eaters.  Why?

A compulsive eater will usually carry on eating and just do not know when to stop, but they will usually do it in public and not feel ashamed.

A binge eater, is usually ashamed of themselves and feel out of control.

They may  also go on to become Bulimic and purge themselves by starving, or vomiting.

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Willpower or Addiction?

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SodDietingAccording to Dictionary.com the definition of Willpower is;

Control of one’s impulses and actions; self-control (noun)

The definition of Addiction is; 

The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming such as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.(noun) 

So if you are struggling with problems of feeling out of control, and are wondering what it is that is keeping you in this trap of unhealthy habits, perhaps it is not a matter of will power.

You may make a decision that you are going to eat healthily, give up smoking, give up alcohol, or come off certain addictive drugs.

You  have used your will power to make the decision. 

Then you have to tackle the addiction.

Giving up smoking, alcohol (if you have become aware of a problem in your life with this substance) and drugs is certainly not easy.

I have been through giving up smoking and coming off anti-depressants. 

I tackled them with recognising the problems they were causing me. (Decision to use will power)

Then I was forced to recognise that  will power on it’s own was not enough, I was addicted!

I had to recognise this because of the pain I experienced when stopping.

After a lot of struggle and difficulty I did it. But I had support from the GP and certain nicotine aids.

I recognised that I had an addiction that needed to be changed.

But there is another problem that society is not getting to grips with.

FOOD ADDICTION!

You can get help and support for coming off drugs, alcohol and smoking, but are you getting support for the food addiction?

The folllowing is a typical scenario.

You have been told to eat more healthily. The reasons may be varied, such as obesity, Type 2 diabetes or certain bowel disorders just for a start.

You may get more appointments to see the practice nurse, diabetes clinician, or even a dietician. But they are for the illness or disease.

Most times the professional does not recognise that you have an addiction to food! They believe that it is all in the mind and you just have to use willpower!

Which brings us back to what I was saying about willpower and addiction.

The decision to eat in a healthy way lies with you! No one else can make this decision for you.

Now comes the hard bit. Everyone is giving you different advice, the media, friends, diet books, the NHS or other government bodies. No-one can agree with what is best. When you go back to the nurse or clinician, you feel a failure because you have not stuck to the diet!

There you are in the middle and don’t know where to turn.

But even with all the advice in the world you are still not being recognised as a FOOD ADDICT.

Yes, there is such a thing.

Yes, you will have withdrawal symptoms when you give up sugar, and all the other junk that is in a product that is called food, but actually is not real food!

No! It is not just a matter of willpower!

So the secret is to recognise the ADDICTION, Own it and ask yourself what help you are going to get?

As a Life Coach specialising in helping to change your thinking around food, and lifestyle choices I can help.

I cannot cure you, or make the decision for you. I will not tell you what to do.

But I can guide you in the right direction, help you to find resources and be a mentor in your day to day experiences.

MOST OF ALL I CAN HELP YOU TO RECOGNISE RESOURCES WITHIN YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE UNAWARE OF. 

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