Food; Friend, Fun or Foe?

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For over forty years, I considered myself a victim. To;

  • My Self Image
  • My ugly body
  • The fat on my body
  • Foods that just triggered me off
  • A compulsion to just carry on eating, even when fullSodDieting
  • Dieting to get rid of the fat and feelings of loathing
  • Calorie counting
  • Fat units
  • Food intolerance
  • Addiction
  • My fat belly

It took me nearly a life time to discover the root of why I have always had this battle. One of them being that as a child I was always being told to tuck my tummy in, and as a 14 year old I was issued with a corset to keep it in.

This message was not only coming to me from my Mother, but from my gran and also a teacher at school who was the ring leader in calling me GubGub after the pig in Dr Dolittles adventures.

I don’t blame any of them now, but I did for a long time, even of I was unaware of it.

Many new regimes of eating in our modern days, look at the physical side of control. But there is another deeper side to it all. Much like trying to run a car that keeps breaking down. Just filling it with more fuel, or a different type of fuel, will not fix the problem if it is the battery that is flat. So it is with humans. If we keep just thrusting down feelings, memories and resentment, we will never get to the root of the problem. Our batteries will always be flat.

Getting into the right place is not necessarily just about looking great. When we have an “inner” glow, we can look fantastic.

Part of my inner work that freed me up was forgiveness for all those people who gave me a false message, which I lived by.

I have had quite a journey over the years, some of it exciting, some not, but always challenging.

It is a wonderful thing to be free of the tyranny of forever worrying about my shape and my looks.

How do you go about finding that inner glow, which gives you confidence in yourself, and frees you up from the necessity of the “Forever Diet?”

I would love to hear your comments.

Either here, or perhaps on my Facebook page.



Fat is Good for Ageing Bodies!




So what do I mean by Fat is Good?

Fat has been demonised for over thirty years now. During the 1980’s this demonisation was taken up by the Food and Diet Industry, and big bucks were made.

Yet it has never been proved that fat was bad, with the exception of transfats, which are toxic.

Baby Boomers, those born between 1945 and 1965 were the ones who became convinced that the only way to keep weight off and be healthy was to eat low fat foods. Later generations then inherited the myth and our stores are still full of low fat or fat free products.

People are often shocked when they hear that fat is not so bad after all, and somehow they cannot bring themselves to enjoy higher fat products.

I probably need to add that its the combination of fat, sugar and additives that are damaging peoples health, so don’t go lathering butter on your bread or malt loaf!

It is worth knowing that because many of us who were sucked into this myth, are suffering the results with early skin problems.

Did you know that fats and oils are ESSENTIAL to the body. Fatty acids are building blocks just like protein is.

They are beneficial to our skin, vision, brain function, bone density and hormone production.

Make sure they are healthy fats, and that includes butter! Contrary to popular belief saturated fat does not go straight to our arteries.

There is so much information now, much of it is contradictory, the media confuse people too. Do the research yourself and find out.

You will find out more by reading my book about the politics of dieting and food.





Ageing and Calorie Restriction.




Today I thought you may be interested in looking at the positive side of calorie restriction.

If you follow my writings and books, you will know that I advise people not to count calories.

However what I do say is that we need to be aware of them.

There are some regimes around that encourage people to just eat as much as they like as long as they eat natural foods, without any additives, or processing and have been adulterated out of all recognition of how food was meant to be consumed by humans.

This is so true!

Many people find that once they do eat naturally they do not crave more food than their body needs, so the amount of calories that they consume is reduced automatically.

This will work if you have never had problems with bingeing, sugar addiction, or eating disorders.

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As we grow older, the body naturally reduces the appetite. So therefore we need to trust what our body is telling us, and eat less.


We all have a source within us that is not being heard or listened to.

As history has progressed and we have moved further away from nature and that source, we are losing the ability to be aware of what our body actually needs.

Have a look at how aware you are as you grow older.

One way of telling if you eat too much is whether you suffer from indigestion!

If you eat a moderate amount of natural foods then this will not happen.

(However the body may be suffering from digestive disorders because of the abuse we gave them with the onslaught earlier in life, even if we did not binge, but simply ate the wrong foods. It is never too late to change that.)

So when you hear about restrictive intake of calories, just remember that the essential thing is to;

  1. Be aware of what your body is telling you.
  2. Only eat natural wholesome foods.
  3. Stay away from sugary, starchy, processed junk.
  4. Watch your portions.
  5. Stop eating when you are full.

Then the calories will take care of themselves without going to the extreme measures of plates full of nothing but leaves!




Us and Them!

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We hear a lot about the environment ruining our health.

We hear a lot about the way that humans do not take care of the environment, and how it is ruining the state of the planet.

We blame the Food companies, Pharmaceutical companies, the Government, our doctors and on and on.

Always “Them” but how often do we look at “Us?”

But how willing are we to do something about it?


Take health for example.

In the days of the internet, thousands of books, television and newspapers, we have all the information and knowledge that is available to us, yet many people just sit and claim that their ill health is someone else’s fault.

Claims are made that they are confused with conflicting advice. “They say one thing one minute and another the next” is heard so often in conversations.

Even articles in the newspaper can be confusing as we read them. Just this week I read an article on a new book about gut flora and obesity. Part of the article was to say that beer can be good, and the writer would have said something along the lines that beer has plenty of flora in it.

But the journalist then made his own little extra box, with the headline. “Good news; beer is ok!” and went on to say that wine and beer are healthy. Many people would not bother to find out what that was all about and claim that the paper said that it is ok for us drink alcohol.

The point that I am making here is that we all need to do our own research using the tools that I mentioned earlier.

You might then say that all this information can still be confusing.

I agree. So what to do?

Look within!

We have been given by nature and God, the ability to use our own wisdom and judgment. These days He has given us some fantastic tools to go along with that. Do you ever get a gut feeling about something?

You may be reading, or watching television, and you get this feeling that something is not quite right.

I bet that before now you have been talking to someone and you know that they are lying. Where do you think that feeling comes from? It is commonly known as our Gut feeling, or instinct or intuition. I have heard it called discernment too.

Or even more importantly how far within ourselves are we willing to look?

How willing are we to think, really think, about what could be the answer?

Do we just sit back and let others tell us what to do?

Do we just jump on the next seemingly good idea that comes along?

Then blame “them” when the diet fails, or we cannot stick to our new healthy way of living.

Another idea that springs to mind is the story of a famous runner, whose name escapes me, who, years ago encouraged many to take up jogging, then died of a heart attack. So many people then gave up running or would not take it up because it seemed that running was dangerous.

How many of those people actually bothered to find out the facts themselves?

Most of us have the ability to find out for ourselves what the truth is.

Then to follow our intuition about what is right for each one of us. Therein lies the key! We are all different and have different needs.

Not just on a level of “That sounds good, I’ll try that.”  But by finding out for ourselves and using our intuition.

So are you going to find out what is the truth and be conscious about your choice?

I will examine where consciousness comes into it on another blog. But maybe this one will give you food for thought.

You have the inner ability and wisdom to find out for yourself what is right for you!



Willpower or Addiction?

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SodDietingAccording to the definition of Willpower is;

Control of one’s impulses and actions; self-control (noun)

The definition of Addiction is; 

The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming such as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.(noun) 

So if you are struggling with problems of feeling out of control, and are wondering what it is that is keeping you in this trap of unhealthy habits, perhaps it is not a matter of will power.

You may make a decision that you are going to eat healthily, give up smoking, give up alcohol, or come off certain addictive drugs.

You  have used your will power to make the decision. 

Then you have to tackle the addiction.

Giving up smoking, alcohol (if you have become aware of a problem in your life with this substance) and drugs is certainly not easy.

I have been through giving up smoking and coming off anti-depressants. 

I tackled them with recognising the problems they were causing me. (Decision to use will power)

Then I was forced to recognise that  will power on it’s own was not enough, I was addicted!

I had to recognise this because of the pain I experienced when stopping.

After a lot of struggle and difficulty I did it. But I had support from the GP and certain nicotine aids.

I recognised that I had an addiction that needed to be changed.

But there is another problem that society is not getting to grips with.


You can get help and support for coming off drugs, alcohol and smoking, but are you getting support for the food addiction?

The folllowing is a typical scenario.

You have been told to eat more healthily. The reasons may be varied, such as obesity, Type 2 diabetes or certain bowel disorders just for a start.

You may get more appointments to see the practice nurse, diabetes clinician, or even a dietician. But they are for the illness or disease.

Most times the professional does not recognise that you have an addiction to food! They believe that it is all in the mind and you just have to use willpower!

Which brings us back to what I was saying about willpower and addiction.

The decision to eat in a healthy way lies with you! No one else can make this decision for you.

Now comes the hard bit. Everyone is giving you different advice, the media, friends, diet books, the NHS or other government bodies. No-one can agree with what is best. When you go back to the nurse or clinician, you feel a failure because you have not stuck to the diet!

There you are in the middle and don’t know where to turn.

But even with all the advice in the world you are still not being recognised as a FOOD ADDICT.

Yes, there is such a thing.

Yes, you will have withdrawal symptoms when you give up sugar, and all the other junk that is in a product that is called food, but actually is not real food!

No! It is not just a matter of willpower!

So the secret is to recognise the ADDICTION, Own it and ask yourself what help you are going to get?

As a Life Coach specialising in helping to change your thinking around food, and lifestyle choices I can help.

I cannot cure you, or make the decision for you. I will not tell you what to do.

But I can guide you in the right direction, help you to find resources and be a mentor in your day to day experiences.



Have a look at my Website for loads of FREE information. See you there!


Destination & Weight Management.



What happens when you reach your destination?

 I am a fan of “Boston LegaI,” a programme about a law firm in Boston that is full of irony and wit.

In one programme, there was a remark by Alan (for those who know him) when talking to Denny, (who was feeling down because his favourite football team had won the championship.)

Denny had been supporting this team for nearly all of his life, now suddenly the thrill of wanting this had been removed!

Alan said to him something along the terms that it was not the destination that was the thrill, but the journey getting there. You need another interest to give you a challenge.

Is that how it is with weight management?

And is that why many people find it difficult to maintain the weight once they reach their goal?

The diet, and the thrill and anticipation of the number dropping on the scales have been removed.

We gradually start to put on weight because deep down now that we have reached our goal, life in the day to day maintenance has become tedious.

We miss the thrill of someone saying “Haven’t you lost weight?”

Do you identify with this?

  I know I did when I was caught up in the diet trap!

So perhaps once you reach your goal, think of another challenge, rather than just controlling your weight.

Chances are once you relax and just eat what you know you can, you can put the weight issue on the back burner, simply keeping an eye on it, but not making it your main aim in life.

Life becomes something else rather than just what you eat!

Be aware, be watchful but don’t be obsessive.

That way you will eat to live, and not live to eat!



Obesity Among Young British Women.


Obesity among young British women is the worst in Europe.

A programme on British Television on 4th September 2014, investigated this phenomenon.

I am not going to be among those people who blame the women!

 They have had enough of that already.

The people that I would blame though are the ones who seem to be ignoring the truth!

We are constantly hearing the mantra Eat Less and Do More

If it was that simple, we would not now be in the midst of such a mess. 

There are now many studies, books and papers, showing that controlling your weight is not just about calorie counting and getting more exercise.

Do not get me wrong though.

Yes, it is healthy to be aware of your calorie intake, but not to be counting them and relying on this to control your weight.

Zoe Harcombe, Gary Taubes and John Briffa have researched this. So you can look this up for yourself.

Google it!

Also, it is healthy to keep active and to do certain exercises. But this will only tone you up and will not make you lose weight.

You have to walk a mile to burn 100 calories. Have you walked a mile lately?

Assuming that you are eating a healthy diet, then that would be the equivalent of an apple!          .

Imagine if you had a doughnut, which is laden with 400 calories, are you willing to walk 4 miles to burn that off?

And that is working under the assumption that the doughnut is the only thing you ate.

The surgeon being interviewed who was operating on these women, commented that surgery was the only answer.

Not true, my friends.

With a combination of;

  • Eating only real food, avoiding starchy, processed foods and anything with sugar in.
  • Looking at whether you could be intolerant to certain foods, or addicted to them.
  • Sorting out your beliefs and how you think

This could be the answer.

It is not easy, but it is certainly a better answer and it is a far better alternative to having your body cut up and taking away how nature designed our digestive system.

So sorry, but surgery is not the only answer.

If only the NHS and other Government bodies in other countries, would be more open to what we, the people who are working hard and have been there ourselves struggling with weight and food issues, have to say. Then we could all  move on.

But that’s politics for you!


Losing Weight the Lazy Way?


A Bite Counting Gadget!


This was reported on the Daily Telegraph on 15th August 2014

Here is the link if you want a good read.

Apparently this gadget counts the number of bites you take per day because a person consumes an average of 11 calories a bite for women and 17 for men.  So you can count how many calories a day by counting your bites!

Sounds good in theory. But I don’t see this working as how will the gadget know what you are eating?

There is also an idea of a talking plate!

OK; same goes with this of course.

Why can’t Scientists concentrate on finding out more about what many-many people are finding DOES work?

Keeping an eye on your sugar and carbohydrate intake.

With all the controversy going on about low this and low that, what works, what’s ethical, and so on, they would be better putting their energy and resources into that.

What’s more, one of them could be in for the Nobel peace prize, because the person finding the answer to Obesity and its problems will surely get one.

Having said that, the answer is staring them in the face, so what I think people are really looking for,

is the lazy way to control their weight.

Because leaving out sugar, keeping your carbs low, keeping active, and changing their ways are too much like hard work!

So perhaps the Nobel peace prize will go to the person who finds how to lose weight the lazy way!



The Great Food Debate and Weight Management?

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I have been reflecting a lot lately about why we are in such a predicament about our weight and food issues.

People these days seem to be oriented around food, whether they are dieting or not.

Although it is natural to eat, because we need to, thinking about what to eat and earning the money to buy food, takes up a tremendous amount of our energy. In fact, it is the basis of everything we do in life.

If we are living in the poorest parts of the world and starving, then it is natural to spend most of our time looking for food. Indeed Maslows Hierarchy of needs puts the need for food and shelter right there at the top.

When we live as we do in a more well off country although there is plenty of food around, we still seem to obsess about what we are going to eat. Television is full of cookery programs, and there are even cookery channels dedicated to it.

The song from Oliver “Food Glorious Food” is so spot on. Sung by the children in the workhouse dreaming of the stuff! And of course when you are eating nothing but gruel, then it is no wonder.

So in the poorer countries, we are looking for something to eat. In the Western countries, while there are people who apparently can’t afford to eat, and have to obtain their food from food banks, most of us eat too much.

Particularly too much of the wrong foods.

Did you know that many obese people are actually malnourished?

This is because they are eating badly. Not all of them of course, I know many who are doing something about it, and by eating foods that are nourishing are feeling good while losing  weight.

Supermarkets are bulging at the seams, and even throwing away out of date foods.

Restaurants are throwing away foods that customers are leaving on their plates simply because there is too much on them.

And last but not least, many of us are having to deny ourselves food because we have weight issues.


The world is a crazy place isn’t it?

How about looking at your weight problem in the light of all this and not seeing your diet as deprivation but as something that is good for the environment and your health at the same time.

Perhaps you could think about going without a luxury food of some sort and donating the money to charity.

That way you will be helping others and yourself at the same time.

There is no need to eat so much food really is there?

Do you really need that beer and crisps, snack bars, popcorn, wine and chocolate?

Or at least do you need to eat so much of it?

No food for thought?


Metabolic Damage and Dieting.



The more you diet, the less weight you will lose.

And don’t I know it!

And many more dieters will tell you the same. It will even go so far as you never being able to lose weight, even with a very restrictive diet.

Officially the condition is called Adaptive Thermogenisis.

You can look this up on the internet. But here is one link to get you started;

Then there is this;

Diane Elliott of Oregon University wrote this after doing research there in 1989

“The resting metabolic rate of our obese subjects remained depressed after a massive weight loss despite increased calorific consumption to a level that allowed body stabilization”

In other words, when the diet was over their bodies could not maintain the weight when they returned to eating a normal diet.

There are also two more studies that showed this, and I daresay a good many more.

 They were done by Abdul Dulloo et al at the University of Geneva in 1997  and Arne Astrup in 1999, but I don’t know where he was based.

In my case you can add this on to the aging factor and I get to the end of day and wonder whether I have eaten all day, because it is so little now.

Even seven years ago when I belonged to Weight Watchers, my points were down to 14. When they told me that this was too low, (and they were right because I was not obtaining the correct Nutrients on that low amount) when I put the number up 18 (Which is their minimum) the weight remained stubbornly in place.

One reason why we find it more difficult to lose weight as we get older is because we lose muscle. And muscle burns fat.  The second one is because we natrually slow our activity down, without even realising it. But we generally compensate for that by not having such a big appetite.

All I can do is to monitor carefully what I am eating to make sure that every morsel is full of all the necessary Micro and Macro Nutrients.

But there is some good news!

This link will tell you all about the findings that a lower metabolism helps with longevity!

So the chances are that I will live longer and according to this article if I eat healthily as well, I will stay healthy for as long as possible.

What more could I want?


I spent over forty years of my life on them, and I am now paying the price!