My Yoga experience and Ageing.

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In December 2016 along with many others,  I was thinking about my intentions for 2017.

I believe that the Universe has my back in this life.

That does not mean that I expect life to be easy and that nothing ever goes awry. We are in this world to experience everything about being human. But there is a way to make the experience one of enrichment, trust, and abundance, and it all depends on how we perceive life and all that it contains.

A more common way of looking at it is to say that we are either a glass half full or a glass half empty person.

I also believe that long articles or blogs can be very boring. So I will keep this short and easy to digest.

While I was thinking about my intentions, I came across a woman called Jane Oppegard, who with a friend Su Bear, was holding a Kundalini Retreat in Somerset. The retreat called Finding your Radiance for 2017, was about setting your intentions for the next year, clearing out the old stuff that can block those intentions and make way for the new.

I knew that was for me. Having gone through a difficult time with a personal family matter, I was feeling depressed and low and needed to get away. The idea of a retreat alone was very appealing, but somehow the idea of being able to clear away the negative stuff and start the new year with Radiance put the final touch to my desire.

All I can say is; It worked! And I intend for it to go on working!

I felt rather nervous about going, I had never done yoga before and I wondered whether I would be fit enough. But Jane did allow for that and I was able to sit on a chair. I am not in this photo, I was taking it! K.Yoga Retreat 2.

I came back feeling so different, having worked on the chakra system and releasing energy that was holding me back from carrying out my intentions.

So as well as the intentions that I already had in mind, I have now added a new one. I intend to carry on practicing Kundalini Yoga.

Jane is holding a 40 day Transformation online programme at the end of January. This is part of what she says about it on Facebook.

Do you feel that all you do is look after others, work all the time, run around from pillar to post, unorganized, never have enough time for yourself, life stands still and you never seem to move forward?
Do you need motivation to kick a habit? Smoking, drinking, eating, negative thinking?
Do you find yourself repeating the same habits? Such as unhealthy relationships, loosing your temper and getting angry.

If you get stuck in these kinds of life cycles, all they do is create negativity, and illness.

You can find the full details here; https://www.facebook.com/events/411661619224931/

I got back from the retreat last Tuesday feeling absolutley amazing and the rest of the group too. You can see the joy in our faces in the photo above. Jane is wearing the white headress.

So if you want to know more about Kundalini and Jane have a look at the above link.

Sat Nam. (Truth is our indentity) 

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Vision and Purpose as we Age.

 

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Many may say that at the age of 72, all you need to worry about is looking after yourself. Your health, your wealth and your welfare.

Yes, folks that is so true.

Taking care of ageing bodies is vital for your health, by *eating sensibly, keeping active and taking good care of the financial situation. Care of your appearance is also important, and hygiene with your personal care and surroundings is essential for general well-being.

Keeping active in the sense of exercise, such as walking, swimming or weight supporting activities, is also something to keep those bones and the cardiovascular system healthy.

And what about your Spiritual and mental wellbeing?

Meditation* is fast becoming one of the ways that people are getting in touch with something more than the outer body and world.

Spirituality, awareness and consciousness is a great purpose as we age.

Yesterday I went to a casual meeting of Damsels, (A national movement called Damsels in Success for women) in which we made up our vision boards for what we want.

Contrary to many older people’s beliefs, there is nothing wrong with wanting things, as long as we are not taking them away from others.

But we were all reminded that our wants are not just about things.

We thought about our purpose too.

We need to think about what we want in the way of why we are here, our legacies to the world in the way of wisdom, service to the planet as a whole and spreading love and peace. How we want to be in our interactions with people, and how we want the world to remember us.

Younger people tend to think about purpose as being what their careers may be or how they can serve the world and make a living doing what they love. That is the natural course of life.

But as we age, it is a good idea to look at our purpose in the last what could be thirty or forty years of our lives.

We had a lot of fun yesterday, and there were some children there too. Adult children and young children alike were absorbed in finding pictures in magazines. Cutting and gluing and arranging the pictures.

Now my vision board is sitting on the wall in my office, and it is going to be interesting to see how it develops.

I did a vision board about two years ago, and three quarters of it came to fruition. So this idea works. It is mainly to help to focus on what you really want in life.

I have published my vision board above for you to see. Some of it is not very clear, but I hope that you will get the gist.

There are holidays that I want to go on and clothes that I want.

On the right-hand side, you can see a picture of an audience. That is a vision I have for speaking to larger audiences. So far they have been quite small.

There is a picture of a choir, well actually I already belong to one.

The picture of Helen Merrin contains the words “Gold not Old”. I am aware that I cannot change my older looks, and the wrinkles, but I want people to see past the wrinkles and see the gold of kindness and support to others.

On the left is a beautiful garden in which I can visualise myself sitting. We only have a small garden where I am living, and gardening is not my forte. But year after year and with some patience, I am gradually building up something like the illustration. But you never know, one day something or someone may turn up to help me make a better job.

There are several little sentences that I found such as “Home is where the heart is”  “See the beauty in everything”  “Why be dull?”

There is also a sentence at the bottom that clinches it all. “Signed Sealed and Delivered”

That means that I believe that it will happen. The Universe always has our best welfare in mind. I never cease to be amazed at the synchronicities that happen every day for me.

I am not saying that life is golden, and things are not tough for me at times, but when they are I am aware of the fact that the Universe does indeed have my welfare in mind because it has everyone’s welfare in mind. We are all part of that whether we are aware of it or not.

What is your vision and purpose for the rest of your life?

*There are blogs on these subjects on my Website, patriciacherrylifecoach.com
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The Mystery of Ageing.

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A similar word to that of Mystery is Mastery, isn’t it?

While contemplating my own ageing process this morning, it has dawned on me that there is a lot around us these days about anti-ageing, conscious ageing, and even with myself “Ageing with Vitality.”

I have been through a transition in my life over the last couple of months, and the main theme of that transition has been “Surrender”. (Which I have written about in the previous few articles.) http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com/blog/

During that transitioning process, it has been a revelation to me that I simply cannot be in control of my own ageing. I cannot be the Master of my destiny.

However much I work at how to age consciously and with awareness, this still does not mean that I can control the outcome.

Ageing does bring about physical impairment, cognitive impairment and some amount of dependence.

I am watching the process of my Mothers very old years. In this process I am constantly reminded of my own ageing.

We are almost bombarded by stories of marvellous old people who are doing wonderful things at certain ages. Skydiving, marathon running, etc.  Somehow ageing in a normal way is seen as a failure.

This is the mystery of ageing. We like to think that if we do this or if we do that, we won’t get old so quickly. We are putting off the evil day, as it were.

But think of the word mystery. We love to read a good mystery. We watch detective stories and love to try and solve who did it. As children, many of us used to read Enid Blyton Mysteries. Part of the excitement was the exploration.

Now, personally, I am exploring the world of ageing. I am facing my own mystery of ageing. Some of it is in shadow, and there are certainly shadow aspects in ageing.1992 - 1999 021

But I want to live in the light of ageing, which will in turn light up the shadow side.

So while I cannot be the master of my ageing process, I can be seeing it as a great adventure. I can be excited at the discovery of the mystery of ageing.

I had a vision this morning of an adult person putting up a large silk tent. The colour was lemon and lilac. Underneath that tent, which was billowing, there was a small child waiting to put his little red tent up. Waiting for the adult to show him what to do.

At the time of this vision, I was meditating and thinking of how my Mother was at the age I am now. I am learning from her how to age and how not to age. I am hoping that the lessons that I am learning will stand me in good stead for when I am 94 years old.

I am learning from my Mother, how to put up my little red tent!

But the main thing is that I have already learnt today, at 7 am, that there is a narrow line between Mystery and Mastery.

I cannot control, or master my ageing process, but I can enter the mystery with wonder, and a sense of learning, discovery and spirituality.

Have you considered your ageing?

Are you in denial that it will happen?

Are you hoping to Master the outcome?

Or, are you going to see it as a big, scary adventure and solve the mystery of how to age with vitality and be in the light.

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Berries and Ageing with Vitality

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What on earth has berries got to do with ageing you may ask?

A lot actually!

Firstly they are the best fruit that you can eat.

For more on the low down on berries see this link; http://www.mnn.com/food/healthy-eating/stories/superfoods-11-berries-to-improve-your-health

In this report, (and you will find a similar story in many others,) Melissa Breyer points out that reserachers have revealed that women who eat strawberries three times a week have less chance of heart attacks. This is because berries have high concentrations of anthocyanin.Pair of red wet cherry fruit on stem with green leaf isolated on white

She goes on to say that women who eat berries experience a slower decline in mental health.

Whilst I am somewhat sceptical of studies, unless I find out how, who or why they were done, the overall conclusion is that they are certainly good for us.

But there is also another connection with berries and ageing.

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The same berries back in the spring were blossoms!

So it is with life. When we are young our bodies are blossoming and have a special beauty. We gaze at the trees in spring and wonder at the colour and splendour, just as we do with young beauty in animals and humans.

The blossom doesn’t last for very long though. A brief month and it falls to the ground leaving a carpet, whilst the tree or bush is left with the core, which grows and matures to a fruit or berry.

Besides a beauty of its own, the berry contains all the goodness, for sustenance for a good and healthy life.

Eventually it is plucked and eaten, or it drops off and becomes the seed for a new bush or tree to grow.

Chestnuts or any seeds and berries that you can think of, have this ability.

Dont forget the mighty oak is grown from a little acorn too. DSC_0079

So too, our ageing process can be of use to planet Earth.

What seeds will you sow in your later years? 

Will you be vital, creative and nurturing?

Will you recognise the beauty of old age?

Will you leave a fruitful and lasting legacy? 

If I have captured your imagination, you can find out more, on my website

http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

Or we would love to see you in the Facebook group.

Ageing with Vitality.

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Ageing with Love.

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No matter what our spiritual backgrounds, cultures, race, creed, age, religion or what we consider to be our inner source and strength is, the most important empowerment in our connection to one another is love.

If we all remembered the true meaning of love, this world would be a peaceful and joyful place to be. There would be no inequality, war or starvation. Crime, greed or cruelty would be a thing of the past.

Love is not a soppy sentiment, saved for emotional times in our lives, but is an active energy that is just there.

But we tend to think that if we are going to give it, it needs to be to a deserving person, or animal.

Listening to Wayne Dyer this morning I was reminded of how powerful it can be to turn the other cheek. When someone annoys us, or we feel angry with them, why don’t we do just that, turn the other cheek. We do not have to be a doormat to be walked all over, but just to pause and respond in a loving way, without anger or retaliation. Not easy, but it is possible.

No matter what your spiritual beliefs, Christian, Bhuddist, Hindu, Muslim, humanist or anything else, this quote from Corinthians 13 in the bible, is true for all of us.

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13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecyand can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror;then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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Pollyanna is Ageing With Vitality!

 

 

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Are you going to decide to Age with Vitality as a Pollyanna?

Wikepedia has this to say; The Pollyanna principle is the tendency ConsciousAgingLogofor people to remember pleasant items more acuurately than unpleasant ones. Research indicates that, at the subconscious level, the mind has a tendency to focus on the optimistic, while at the conscious level, it has a tendency to focus on the negative. 

Pollyanna was a best selling novel by
Eleanor H. Porter in 1913, and became a famous film in the 1960’s.

It was about a little girl called Pollyanna who got on everyones nerves, for seeing the good side of people, and the bright side of everything.

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Here are a couple of Pollyannas from 1950. (My two grandmothers)

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And here are a couple more from the 2015’s! (Me with a friend.)

Yet you know, it is actually a wonderful enhancement to your life if you can see the bright side of things.

The ageing process can be so much more positive if you can “count your blessings.”

I have a 90 year old friend who has had three four major surgerys in the last twenty years. Three of them for cancerous tumours and one triple heart bypass. She was 85 when they did this last one. Yet people love to visit her and we all had a wonderful time at her recent 90th birthday celebrations.

Yes, she has had tough times, and yes she has had her moments when it has been a real struggle. I have often left her in tears and feeling down. But I can go back to check on her after a couple of hours, and she is a different woman. Why?

She has the capability of “Giving herself a good talking to!” Her words, not mine.

She sits and remembers all the good things. The wonderful patient nursing staff, the skill of the surgeons and friends who visit. (She has no family)

And guess what? People love to visit her. The surgeon decided that he was willing to take the risk of doing heart surgery on this Elder lady, because of her attitude and being young at heart.

She is funny and says that she came kicking and screaming into the 21st century!

Another lady I know sits and moans at everything and says what an awful life this is and wishes she was dead. She has had no major illness, just the usual things that a 93 year old can expect. Guess What? She is lonely and has driven everyone away.

The message today then is don’t be afraid of being called a Pollyanna.

Be grateful, be kind, be wise, be an Elder who people want to be with. That in turn will enhance your own health and well being.

So may Pollyanna reign in her days of Eldership!

Join in the conversation or ask questions on the Facebook group page,

“Ageing With Vitality.” https://www.facebook.com/groups/113172222365276/

 

 

 

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Forgiving Yourself as you Age with Vitality.

 

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ConsciousAgingLogoWe have looked at how forgiving others can be liberating for you and your wellbeing and vitality.

Have you considered that you also need to forgive yourself?

Many of us have made errors of judgement, mistakes, been unkind or even brought about our own and others downfall with something that we may have done. Also in these days of societal judgment, such as illness, obesity, lack, and keeping up with the Joneses, we can easily find fault with ourselves, and wonder what we must have done wrong.

Often we can be the victim to our own misplaced guilt. For example, many working women feel guilty about leaving their kids, or the stay at home Mums feel guilty for not making a contribution to the household costs.

Another example is when you lose a loved one, part of the grieving process is to blame yourself for something that you may have done to hurt them or not done enough.

This is where it pays to take a good look at yourself, using your chosen method of meditation, and make sure that there is a real need to forgive yourself when you have not done anything wrong.

However, you may know for sure that you definitely did something that hurt or caused someones downfall. Only you will know the answer to this one.

Don’t forget to bear in mind what I suggest about doing a little at a time. Often this can be the easiest ones first.

In that case the procedure for forgiving yourself is much the same as forgiving others, which I covered briefly in the previous blog.

We are made up of mind, body and spirit. Unforgiveness can manifest itself in all three. Our mind can be fixated on the thing that needs to be forgiven, whether this is for yourself or someone else, which in turn can affect our physical and mental health. This in turn can break our spirit.

A simple exercise would be to visualise each component, speaking to the other. A sort of you talking to you.

Another way of doing it would be to seperate yourself into parent, child and adult. This is called Transactional Analysis. Write as if you are each of those Untitled-1characters in turn. Then speak to them. Parent to child, child to parent, and then think of how the adult would deal with, treat and talk to other two.

In our everyday lives, we usually react as if we are either one of those three. The parent could be bossy and expect you to behave in a certain way that keeps them happy. (Use what ever your perception of a parent or guardian was when you were a child.)

The child would be the one in need of some love and understanding.

The adult, would be the person reading this and understanding where each of the other two are coming from.

Then go through the forgiveness exercises and much in the same way as the mind, body, spirit assigment above, get each character to talk to the other.

It will definitely help to be using your journal and writing it down. Perhaps write a little script as if you are writing a play.

I hope that this will help. Don’t forget that you can join us in the group on Facebook, and ask or discuss anything that has come up for you here.

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How to Forgive & Ageing with Vitality.

 

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After looking at how important forgiveness can be to our wellbeing (in the previous blog,)it would help of course if someone could tell us “how”.

We are told so much about the need for forgiveness, but knowing how to do it is half the battle.

There is a lot more to this discussion than be can be put into a blog, so I have now started an Ageing With Vitality group on Facebook, in which you can ask questions. I would love to see you there, and will endeavour to answer them, but also you may find that others can answer too. That is what the group is all about. Sharing our ideas and quandries.

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I must say at this point that I “do understand how hard it is to forgive” I have been there and there is still stuff coming up every day for me to forgive, both from the past and the present.

For the purpose of today’s topic then some of the practices that I have come accross are as follows;

Meditation. Spend some time simply dwelling on the person and episode in question. Think again about the smells, environment, who was present and the outcome. Home in on what there was about the episode that was hurtful. Then think about the outcome for you. Meditate on this and decide out of the whole thing what you would find easiest to forgive.

For example; If you are still upset and hurt over your divorce or your partner leaving you, you will be thinking in general about the “whole” episode. If you can break this episode down into smaller parts, such as a certain thing they said or did, then you can practice forgiveness for that one thing, rather than trying to forgive the whole episode.

If you have been abused or cheated on, break it down into small incidents and work on one at a time. Trying to tackle the whole thing at once, without proper “training” is like trying to climb a mountain without the proper equipment and knowledge.

A little like learning to drive, you learn one action at a time, then you build it up into being a competent driver.

Here is the link to what Wayne Dyer has to say about forgiveness.

http://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/how-to-forgive-someone-in-15-steps/

He talks about moving on, understanding yourself, being like water and in the flow, (it stagnates when it is not in the flow), reconnecting with spirit and being kind rather than being right.

Also understand that you have a vital part in forgiving others.

By not forgiving, you are perpetuating an energy of resentment and bitterness towards yourself and everyone else around you.

I am sure that there are many other ways to practice the art of forgiveness and it would be good to discuss them in the group.

A favourite way for me is something called Ho’oponopono.

A simple technique, using four sentences.

  • I’m sorry
  • Please forgive me (as I forgive you)
  • Thank you
  • I love you

You can say it in any order.

What? I hear you say, why am I having to say sorry?

Remember what I said about you perpetuating unforgiveness by not forgiving.

I’m sorry, means that you are sorry that you are perpetuating unforgiveness, resentment and bitterness by not forgiving.

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SAY THIS OUT LOUD

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SAY IT TO THE PERSON.

All you have to do is to say it quietly with a picture in your mind of the thing or person that you are forgiving.

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Please read more about ho’oponopono on this link.

http://www.lucid-mind-center.com/hooponopono-method.html

In the next blog I will be looking at how to forgive yourself.

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Ageing with Forgiveness

 

 

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Unforgiveness is one of the biggest blocks to freedom. Particularly as we age. To become a wise and joyful Elder, we need to come to grips with this important aspect of our lives.

Right from when we are born, we experience hurt and damage to our body, spirit and mind, mostly from the circumstances and other people in our lives.This may be bullying, misconceived parenting, religion, cultural ideas, peers, siblings, friends and even from those who love us.

No one cannot go through life without damaging experiences, and many of us carry these experiences throughout life. Even bad experiences later in life, can do untold damage.

For many years the Fruedian idea of how damage being done to us, is the cause of who we become, and that there is no turning back. This has been the basis of Therapy, the cause of illness, and spending immeasurable amounts of time and money on our “Inner child”. Particularly the “hurt inner child”.

Untitled-1Whilst this can happen, there never seems to be an answer to the question of “How can I change it!” Cognitive behaviour therapy, (CBT) has been successful in some cases, and is the most popular way of getting over hurts and behaviour, but this is only touching the surface, or the “outer” person.

To really get over things and make changes, there needs to be more work done by the individual themselves and this is why life coaching is becoming a powerful tool. Life coaching is the tool used by people when they want to move on, once they get over a major life change, such as losing a job, bereavement, divorce, retirement, and often when people just feel “stuck” and don’t know where to go next.

In most cases the reason why people cannot move on is that they are not taught how to forgive or what it really means, and that forgiveness can be the first step to moving on with their lives. In the case of ageing, it certainly needs to be dealt with if we are not going to carry bitterness and resentment into our vulnerable older years.

Have you ever thought that you need to forgive yourself?

You could be surprised at how much resentment you are carrying around towards yourself. At the bottom of this anger and resentment you could be carrying unforgiveness around just for being human!

Everyone makes errors or judgment, being unkind, saying hurtful things, playing jokes on others at school, telling lies and so on. These human errors are almost impossible to keep a record of.

It may be something that you did that was quite a major incident in your life and had disastrous, life changing effects on yourself or others.

You could be carrying this around and it is affecting everything you do in the present time.

It is just the same as resentment and unforgiveness to others.

When you did your Life Review from my post “Expectations and Consciousness in Ageing”, you may have uncovered stuff about hurts and pain. You may also have something that happened in the past that you talk a lot about, or that you think a lot about. That one will be obvious.

SDC13676In any case, sit quietly or go for a walk on your own and think about what you would like to be “rid of” with memories and overuling resentments. Would you really like to be free of these?

Let’s look at what forgiveness really is!

Forgiveness is misconstrued in our society and beliefs. It certainly was for me, until I learnt one important componant that made it easier for me.

The following quotes are extracts from “The Art and Science of Forgiveness” by Frederick Luskin, PhD and featured in a book called Consciousness and Healing.

“Forgiveness in no way means you have to reconcile with someone who treated you badly. I see this confusion over and over in the work that I do. For example, if you were the recipient of childhood abuse, or are in a harsh relationship, you can forgive the offender and, as part of that choice, make the decision to end or limit contact. Forgiveness is primarily for creating your peace of mind. It is to create healing in your life and return you to a state in which you can live and be capable again of trust and love.”

He goes on to say;

” Another misconception is that it depends on whether or not the abuser or lying person apologizes, wants you back, or changes his or her ways. If another person’s poor behaviour was the primary determinent for your healing, then the unkind and selfish people in your life would retain power over you indefinitely.  In another vein, you can forgive your ex-spouse for his or her insulting speech and even abandoning you or your children, but forgiveness in no way means you do not take your ex to court to make sure your children get the support payments to which you are entitled. Forgiveness and justice are not the same! You can seek justice with an open heart as well as a bitter one.”

In other words you can forgive without condoning the behaviour that hurt you.

” Lastly, forgiveness does not mean that we forget what happened to us in our urge to move forward and get on with our lives. It is ludicrous to expect anyone who has been badly hurt not to remember the wound.”

Luskin does not suggest that you dwell on your greivances. Jesus said that we need to forgive not just 7 times, but 70 times 70.

This simply means that everytime you remember the hurt, just say to yourself that you have forgiven.

I found this information a liberating and life changing experience. Like other people I have had some major hurts in my life and spent many years believing that I could not forgive the people who hurt me, because that would mean that I had to forget and reconcile, and write to the person to tell them that I had forgiven.

But then I realised that it was inner work that I needed to do and as long as I held unforgiveness, I was also holding onto the hurt. I learnt that letting go of the hurt did not mean I needed to put it in the past and forget about it.

Now I simpy do as Luskin and many others suggest, I simply forgive the person over again.

In the next blog we will look at HOW TO FORGIVE. This is something that is not talked a lot about. It can also be a stumbling block, so make sure that you “tune in” again to the next one on Forgiveness and Ageing.

 

 

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Expectations and Consciousness in Ageing.

 

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Continuing our exploration of Expectations with Ageing, today I am going to look at a Life Review.

This exercise will help you to clear the path for expectations in your ageing journey, and will also give you an outline for the next few days of looking at expectations.

It will also help you to have an experience of conscousness.

Simply, find an hour to sit and write a resume of your life. It does not have to be a complete life story, but can be broken down into ages, such as 1 to 7, 8 to 16 and so on.

What were you doing in those years?

Next, anything that brought up certain emotions, happy, sad, fearful, angry etc make a special note of and close your eyes and get back to how that really felt AT THE TIME, not necessarily how you feel now.

Bring yourself to the present day and how you feel now with hindsight.

IMG_0136It could be anything, your graduation, your wedding, passing certain exams, your first love, an illness, someone dying, divorce, leaving home, etc.  So there will be a mixture of emotions.

Think about smells, sounds, who was there, environment, what you were wearing. etc.

Maybe you are thinking that you do not have time to set aside, if so it may help to set an intent for the day, what ever day you choose to do this. The intent being that you want to make notes throughout the day of any memories that may come to mind about the past. (You will be surprised at how often this happens in any persons day) Carry a note book with you or a peice of paper and jot them down. You won’t need to write them in detail, as the memory is there tucked away, and will surface when you need it.

Then later in the day you should already be off to a flying start for the exercise.

Namaste. May you be blessed with this. It can be quite emotive, but keep calm and trust me to show you how it can be dealt with. 

The next blog will be looking at how to start healing your past. banner-790x90

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