Who are They?

025The Elderly are not they.

Children are not they.

People with different colored skin are not they.

People from other countries are not they.

The rich are not they.

The poor are not they.

Disabled people are not they.

Beautiful people are not they.

Ugly people are not they.

I could go on with many categories that seem to seperate us all. But the point to remember is that they are us!

We are part of the whole. Part of the Universe.

Each of us has been placed in our corner of the world. Some may move around, others may stay in one place.

Some may be in the limelight. Others may go about their lives in a quiet way and only known and recognised by a few.

When we talk about people, or refer to them as “they,” remember that we are all one body. All one piece of a massive energy.Galaxy

We were all once babies. If we survive illnesses or remain healthy we will be old one day. We could become disabled.

Our perception is the only difference in how we notice the colour of our skin or whether we are beautiful or not. We may consider ourself rich or we may consider ourself poor.

 Everything is relative, everything is part of a whole.

We were all born and we are all going to die.

None of us knows what tomorrow, or even today will bring. Anyone of us could suddenly become “they” and things can change in an instant.

Or if we don’t become they, we could grow close to someone and be a huge part their lives and no longer feel seperate.

Therefore we need to love one another as we love ourselves. Not judge others, but put yourself in their place and try and understand what it would be like to be in their shoes.

You may be in them tomorrow!

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Help! I’m over 65 and Ageing.

 

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Have you noticed that on any forms you fill out, they have a box for 20-30; 30-40; 40-50; 50-65 (or similar)

When it comes to age 65, we are counted as +

What does that mean to you?

What it means to me is that society, in general, dismisses the over 65’s as a number when everything becomes indefinite.

Over 65’s, in general,  have become indefinite, written off, uncertain about the future, invisible.

But I am working on making certain that any of that will not apply to me.

Over 65 is an important passage in life, and in these modern days, we could still live another thirty or more years. That is a lot of years to dismiss eh?

What about you?

Is it time to change all that?

After all, if the Government want us to work until we are 70 or even more, why put 65+ on forms, some of which are important to our welfare, such as insurance.

What can you do as an individual? Could you be a spark to the fire that helps to change that thinking?

We will show them that there is no such thing as 65+

We are still an important number.

Many people in my circle are still coming up with visions and new enterprises for the future at age 65 +!

There are some Facebook groups that you could join, to help start the ball rolling. Ageing with Vitality and The Silver Tent are just two of them. There is also one called Humorous Ageing if laughing about it takes your fancy. Here are the links.

The Silver Tent for women over fifty.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1755706121345418/

Ageing with Vitality

https://www.facebook.com/groups/113172222365276/

Humorous Ageing

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1485161444859745/

Come on Baby Boomers, do your stuff, work your magic.

 

 

 

 

 

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For our American Friends. Hunter Gatherer/Baby Boomer extract.

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https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01BUGTBE8

A brief Description;

Have you ever considered how the food we eat has evolved?

Have you ever wondered why our food today is laden with sugar, salt and other preservatives?

In this new book, you will discover how our hunter-gatherer ancestors existed and what they ate, before the advent of farming, domesticating animals and mass production of food.

 

Hi There. This is a post especially for the USA (Amazon.com)  with an extract from this book with regards to some of your history of food.

Taken from Chapter 6. The 50’s; Things improve.

Things looked a little different on the other side of the Atlantic at that time, though.

In a list from an article called “What were Americans cooking in the 1950s?” appetizers are mentioned. This was unheard of in the UK except among the better off. People would not have needed their appetite stimulated; they were hungry enough.

Among them, I found such items as fruit cup, Melon Ball Cocktail, Seafood cocktail, Pastry snails, silver dollar hamburgers, bacon wraparounds. Followed by about 30 more choices.

Another 30 or more different soups and salads, including for the soups, tomato, chicken and corn, onion, oxtail, cream of celery. And for the salads, stuffed tomato, three- bean, orange and Bermuda onion, coleslaw and cold potato salad.

Main courses consisted of grilled kabobs, scalloped chicken supreme, beef and corn casserole, American lasagne, fluffy meat loaf and baked ham with glaze. Salmon steak, chicken-a-la-king, spaghetti with sauce and ham and vegetable casserole.

Vegetables were often served with butter, cream sauce, sour cream sauce, canned soup, and topped with breadcrumbs or dried onion flakes.

Desserts consisted of such items as chiffon pie, coconut cake, peppermint candy, cake, banana chiffon cake, apricot soufflé and banana chocolate cake.

http://www.foodtimeline.org/fooddecades.html

Those were the days of the first barbecues in America, too. While the Brits were still tucking into their fish and chips wrapped in newspaper or baking potatoes at the camp fire, the Americans were setting up their barbecues and cooking steaks, chicken wings, and barbecued ribs. Certainly worlds apart from the UK.

In the UK children were often given a penny to go to the fish and chip shop for a bag of “scraps.” These were the bits that came off the fish while being cooked in the deep fat fryers and came to the surface when they were being cleaned.

The 1950s brought about changes in the way that we cooked. It became a chore and something that just had to be done in the quickest and shortest way possible.

In the 50s dieting was seen as something to make you more attractive and to obtain a lovely figure. Women were happier to be a bigger size than in the later years. An icon of the fifties, Marilyn Monroe, was a size 14 (or American size 12.) She was known for her hourglass figure and her beauty.

The 50’s were an era when lower fat foods started appearing on the market, but the emphasis was on naturally lower fat foods and not specially made.

The word “fitness” was not used for many years yet, and exercise was something you did as a pastime. Exercises were known as procedures rather than routines.

I remember a dieting product called AYDS which involved eating a sort of toffee before you had your meal, which was supposed to fill you up and take away your appetite!

Did it work? What do you think?

I have mentioned what the American were eating many times in the book. Including a history of what the South Americans were eating before the Agricultural Era.

Enjoy!

 

Here is the link again. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01BUGTBE8

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Extract from Hunter Gatherer to Baby Boomer.

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(I will post the link for Amazon.com tomorrow when it will be 0.99c)

This book is available today Sunday, June 11th, especially between noon and 5 pm on Amazon UK. Special promotion to get the sales up on this intriguing and unusual take on our food crisis.

I thought that you may like to see an extract from chapter 5 about the way we ate in the 1940’s and 1950’s when Baby Boomers were in their infancy;

So let’s take a look at a list of foods and the amounts that people ate during the forties and up until the early 50s.

A list of the weekly (not daily) rations looked like this;

  • Bacon & Ham 4 oz. (113 grammes)
  • Meat ½ lb (226 grammes)
  • Butter 2 oz (50grams)
  • Cheese 2 oz
  • Margarine 4 oz
  • Cooking fat (lard) 4 oz
  • Milk 3 pints. (Around 1 and ½ litres)
  • Sugar 8 oz
  • Preserves 1 lb a month.
  • Tea 2 oz
  • Eggs 1 a week.
  • Sweets/Candy 12oz every four weeks

Imagine that you can only have one piece of cheese the size of a match box a week; The size of one piece of cheese to have with your biscuits for your dessert these days!

When my mother got married in 1943, the neighbours all collected their rations of dried fruit, sugar, butter and flour and pooled them and gave them to her mother to make the wedding cake!

White flour was in short supply, and brown wholemeal flour used instead. Vegetables and local fruits were in a reasonable supply because people were making an effort to grow their own.

In a PDF called European food and nutrition policies in action. Page 19. (Euro. who. Link below) the WHO said this:

“To everybody’s astonishment, when stillbirth rates or children’s weights and heights were monitored and when the disease patterns of adults were checked, it became clear that the people of Europe were often better fed during than before the Second World War.”  From this report, I think that it is remarkable how much the government was taking an interest in people’s nutritional needs.

However, things were not as rosy as they seemed. Some children born in this era were suffering from malnourishment. I will discuss this in the next chapter about the 50s.

Recently, people are taking an interest in how people ate during this time because obesity was a rarity. Even doctors lost interest in the subject and people were a lot smaller in stature and girth.

For research purposes, there are not even any obesity statistics around for comparison.

Then, in the 1950s after fourteen years of this way of eating, things began to change. There was more food around, and as a result, people were getting bigger in stature as well as girth.

It may be worth noting that the so-called Baby Boomers generation, those born between 1948 and 1960 are the ones who have seen the biggest changes in history with diet. They have witnessed eating nothing but real food to eating the Frankenstein foods now being produced. And now in the 2010s, we see a vast change in health and well-being. But it is never too late to change your lifestyle, and if you are among this generation, there is still time to do something about it.

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2nd Edition Hunter Gatherer to Baby Boomer.

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I am writing this to ask you to help me with a small favour.

Some time ago I wrote a book called “Hunter Gatherer to Baby Boomer; How Food Evolved.” It has been on Amazon, but has now been re-published as a 2nd re-published, re-formatted and updated edition.

I wrote it because in my lifetime since the 1940’s I have been intrigued watching how food has changed out of all recognition.

The book begins with the Hunter Gatherers, but I have concentrated particularly on the last 100 years, decade by decade, right up until the developments in the 21st century.

I found some amazing facts about how people have always been aware of the shape of their bodies. Watching weight and worrying about self-image is nothing new apparently, and I found some amazing ways that people have done it.

Who is it for?

Have you ever considered how the food we eat has evolved?

Have you ever wondered why our food today is laden with sugar, salt and other preservatives?

In this new book, you will discover how our hunter-gatherer ancestors existed and what they ate, before the advent of farming, domesticating animals and mass production of food.

You will also learn about the obesity epidemic which has gripped the western world and where it has its roots, as well as how food has rapidly developed and changed as the 20th century progressed and our eating habits changed.

There can be little doubt that we are less healthy now than ever and this is in large part because of the food we consume. With ever increasing amounts of sugar, salt and preservatives going into our daily intake, it’s no wonder our bodies are changing in shape.

Now you can see why this has happened and make informed choices about the sort of food you consume.

Get your copy at the times below for just £0.99 and see how the food we eat today has changed beyond all recognition.

I would love it if you bought a copy to help me to get a high ranking on Amazon which puts it onto their bestseller promotions (usually featured on the right-hand side of the page) and therefore creates high visibility for this most interesting book, unique in its subject matter.

When to buy it.

To ensure that happens I have reduced the price from £3.44 to the special price of 99p. (Cheaper in USD)  It will be available for this price from 2pm-9pm on Saturday 10th June and between 12 noon to 5pm on Sunday 11th June.

Please buy at the times suggested because Amazon calculates its bestseller rankings between these times.

Can you leave a review?

Then I’d love you to go onto Amazon and leave a review. The more reviews I get for this book the better its profile worldwide.

It only needs something like;

Really enjoyed Patricia Cherry’s book. I had not thought about the history of how food came to be where it is now in the 21st century. I was fascinated with how long some foods have been in existence and also with how and why we now depend on so much processed food. … Or something like that.

Don’t have kindle – still buy it.

If you don’t have a Kindle, you can still download the Kindle player for free on all computers, tablets and phones.

I’d love it if I could reach as many readers possible world-wide.

Many, many thanks. I will let you know how it goes.

Patricia.

Here is the link again.

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What is Ageing with Vitality?

 

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In my corner of the world, Ageing with Vitality is to age consciously. 

Ron Pevny in his book “Conscious Ageing” says this;

Quote; It is about recognising, honouring, growing into, and working to embody the role of elder as a distinct life stage full of the potential for growth and service beyond midlife adulthood. 

Recognising the fact that your body is ageing, even if you think that your mind is not.

Honouring the fact that older is wiser. You have a lot to offer those who are following behind. You are not yet in your grave and have a lot to offer. And honouring yourself for everything that you have learnt and dealt with in your life before now.

Growing into the beauty and wisdom of old age, gracefully and to surrender to that with joy, peace and love.

Seeing the older years as another life stage, just like leaving school, getting married, having kids and starting a new career. As an older person, you can be without the pressures of having to earn a living. You can relax and enjoy life and be as healthy as you can within the boundaries of a weakened and older body.

In the next series of blogs, I will be looking at these issues and also cover again some of the issues raised in my blogs from July 2015 about ageing.

Please enjoy. And to ensure that you get to see these blogs, please “like” my Facebook page.  https://www.facebook.com/PatriciaCherryWriterandLifeCoach/

or apply to join the Ageing with Vitality group on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/groups/113172222365276/

You will also find them on my website.  http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

 

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What Are You Nourishing?

 

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The Law of Attraction dictates that we attract to us from the Universe, that which we think about and feel most.

Therefore, if you feel loving, forgiving, want to spread peace, want to be happy, the world will benefit from that, and so will each individual.

But we need to remember that the same goes for hatred, unforgiveness and fear. So be careful of what you could be spreading.

It is a vicious circle.

Break the circle of fear, and join the circle of love.

Nourish the world with love and starve it of the fear.

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The Culture of Death.

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The culture of death differs all over the world. Many of the rituals and rules surrounding death are for practical reasons, such as the climate, temperature, etc. Religious rules developed from these practical needs.Daisies

Human’s have been on this planet for a long time. But according to findings from archaeologists, rituals around burial, and disposal of the body has been around for all that time too.

I haven’t space or time to go into a history today; that will take another article. But I will say that in the 20th Century, death in England became taboo.

So that you can get the picture, I am going to describe four funerals.

The first one is an experience recently of a friend of mine. Grace was born in Northern Ireland. Very recently she went there to attend the funeral of a close friend’s husband.

The culture in Northern Ireland is to respect death and honour the deceased. Part of this respect in Grace’s eyes was getting up in the very early hours of the morning at 3 am, to travel to Bristol to catch a 7 am flight to Belfast.

When she arrived in Belfast, her taxi driver was very kind and reduced the fare. Not only that, but he took her back to the airport the next day. Again he saw this as respect because Grace was attending a funeral.

Since Billy had died, which was in hospital, a week before, he had been lying in an open casket in the front room of his own house, and people held what is known as a vigil. The old belief is that the soul takes three days to leave the body. But even if they no longer believe that the vigil is an essential part of the culture, and it also means that the closest family are not left alone, and there is always someone in the house, to talk, have a cup of tea with and draw comfort from.

The Mass was being held at 10 am. Before that, at the house, Grace found the coffin still open in the front room, with hundreds of cards beneath. After she had paid her respects, it was time for a final goodbye by Billy’s wife, to her husband. The wife sang a little song to Billy, then kissed him goodbye, just before the Funeral Director arrived to seal the coffin.

There was a parade of people following the hearse to the church, on foot. After a personal address, mass and service led by the priest, everyone went to the crematorium, where they enjoyed listening to Billy’s favourite Pop songs, including the Everly Brothers, before he was cremated. At the end of which everyone attended the Wake.

Funeral number 2, was an English Funeral. The same friend heard that a neighbour had died. When she asked her husband who out of the two of them would attend the funeral, he was surprised to think that Grace would even consider it. Grace, in turn, was shocked to realise that this attitude was normal for England.

She attended the funeral and found that no-one else in the street went.  There were only a handful of people there, even though this elderly couple had lived in the same street for over fifty years.

The coffin was brought to the church and paraded down the aisle to the words from the C of E funeral book. After a couple of prayers, and mournful hymns, led by a vicar who obviously did not know the chap who had died, the close family went to the Crematorium and everyone went home.

I attended a similar family funeral a couple of months ago, and the picture was the same. No sense of community, because there were only about twenty people scattered all over the church which was big enough to hold three hundred. I wanted to gather them all together and ask them to sit closer to the front. The body had been in the funeral Directors offices, taken out for a viewing at an appointed time, with an hour time slot. Then put back in the fridge until the funeral.

The vicar did not know anyone, spoke over the top of everyone’s head and was quite impersonal.

The few members of the family present went with the coffin to the Crematorium and the people in the church, just went home. Even though there would be a cup of tea at the house, the family had requested that only close family go to the crematorium. So that there was no sense of community or even a chance for anyone to pay their respects to the husband.

At the fourth funeral, everyone gathered outside the Crematorium, and the procession was led in by a Funeral Celebrant. She had been in touch with the family ever since the death.

After bowing to the coffin and placing a lovely photograph of the dead person on top, she took her place at the lectern and asked everyone to sit down.

She read some beautiful opening words acknowledging the family by name and saying a few words about death, and how everyone sees it differently.

The eulogy was read by the son of the person who had died, but it had been a joint effort with the Funeral Celebrant during an hours interview and meeting the family. The eulogy had everyone laughing and crying and reminded us of the character and life of the man who had died.

After the eulogy, everyone sang “Abide with Me,” not necessarily for religious reasons, but because Albert had been a big football fan.

This was followed by five minutes of reflection, listening to Leona Lewis singing “Footprints in the Sand”  while we all looked at a show of pictures on the screen above, of Alberts journey through life, his children and grandchildren.

The children who were present then went up to the catafalque and placed a flower on top of the coffin. Followed by those who wanted to, just to touch the coffin and say goodbye.

After a short committal prayer, the curtains were closed, and the Funeral Celebrant then closed the procedure with appropriate words including a poem about taking up the reins of life without the dead person.

We left the church to the sound of Acker Bilk!

There was then a Wake in the local football club premises.

I will leave it to you to assess what you think would give the most satisfactory way of saying goodbye and support loved ones left behind. It may be one particular funeral described here, or it may be a combination.

The moral of the story is that it is possible to do things differently with death.

The lady who founded the group that I trained with, Jane Morrell, had a vision of “Changing the face of funerals in England.”

The culture in England is one of secrecy. The body is quickly removed from the place of death, often even while it is still warm, whisked away to have “mysterious things” done to it.

We may have a chance to see it; all made up to look good, for a while at the appointed time in the funeral directors office.

On the day, the hearse turns up either at the Crematorium or the church, and there may be a good ceremony or not.

(Have you noticed the disrespect from other drivers when they see a funeral procession lately?)

This culture makes bad things even worse, and the funeral is something to dread even more, than just the saying goodbye.

Jane was inspired when she had that vision. We do need to change the face of funerals. We need a better culture of death.

If you want to read more about death, please visit my website

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The Ageing Adventure.

happycherry_coverI thought today that I would give you some idea of where I have been and where I am going, and why I believe that I can support people in their own ageing adventure.

I started working with older people forty years ago as a care assistant in residential homes, having realised that I had a vocation for that.

Through that, I learnt what makes people in general tick and observed the different ways that people age. Some strong and cheerful even through great adversity, and others bitter and twisted and very difficult to care for.

This implanted in me a desire to make sure that I would not go into my own ageing with unforgiveness and lack of a loving attitude towards my fellow humans.

I opened my own care home after a lot of hard work, passing social services inspections, having converted and painted and decorated, and furnishing a house from scratch, while still working on a night shift. Getting about four hours of sleep a day, over many weeks.

I left the caring profession after a very difficult personal experience with divorce and loss and then meeting and marrying my second husband. But still found myself caring and supporting Elderly neighbours

I also gained experience of the middle age population and enjoyed observing them, by becoming involved with the WI as president of my local meeting, and also did two years on the Cornwall Executive commitee.

At the age of 67, I was introduced to Life Coaching, which in turn led me to realise how much I loved learning. I had not had much oppurtunity at school and left at the age of 15, then married at 19, and went on to having three children and was “just a Naval Housewife”.

I had been led into Life coaching by a friend who was impressed with how healthy I was, and had kept my weight under control. She was convinced that weight management would be a good way for me to go, under the auspice of Life coaching. So I went to University, part time, at the age of 67. 

Because of my backgroud of bingeing and dieting for over forty years, I felt right about this. I then went onto writing books about the subject and designing a website.

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Then someone spotted that I was a good ambassador for ageing well. At the age of 70 I joined Damsels in Success, which is a personal development group for business women.

So I turned my interest to Ageing with Vitality.  

And here I am. Long story-short.

So what now then?

I have recognised that people who are ageing are often operating from a place of fear. Fear of ageing and fear of dying.

So the next few blogs will be about these subjects and to explain my next steps in the adventure of supporting people in these areas.

Watch this space.

Namaste

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The Attitude of Gratitude with Ageing.

ConsciousAgingLogoOne of the things that is frequently said about the older or even late middle age population is that they are Grumpy.

But it doesnt have to be that way.

Practice the Attitude of Gratitude and see what happens.

This can work both ways. When someone or something is affecting your day or peace of mind, just thank God that perhaps you will learn something from the experience.

OK some of you may think that this is New ageist stuff and laugh, but it works!

With practice it can become a habit. You may still feel irritated or want to react at first, but the time between the incident and the realisation that you don’t have to re-act, gets shorter as time goes on.

The secret is in realising that there is a difference between reacting and responding.

You don’t have to be a doormat and let every one walk over you, but the old saying of counting to ten works.

You can let them know that you don’t like something if you must, but the practice of counting to ten gives you the breathing space.

Afterwards, just do what’s next, walk away, look out of the window, relax and just say to yourself that you are grateful for this experience and even the person or object concerned.

Wow! you may think this is stupid, impossible or too airy fairy, but I know it works because as time goes on I am getting better at it.

Believe me when I say that I have people and situations in my life when I have to!

Try it next time. You’ll end up with a smile on your face, instead of raised blood pressure and grumpiness on your part.

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