Are you living in the now? Or are you living for what comes next?
On the bus the other day I was watching a toddler, playing her Mum up to come out of the pushchair. As Mums often do to get some peace, she eventually took her out and put her on her lap.
Not content with that, the toddler decided that she wanted to get down on the floor. She had got what she wanted, but was not content with that and wanted something more.
Although there is nothing wrong with always wanting something more, we can be so busy wanting it, that we fail to appreciate what we already have.
So, what does this have to do with ageing?
My 95-year-old Mother, (I know I often refer to her with my writing, but she is my teacher and example in life on how to, or how not to age. I will add that she breaks all the rules as far as general advice goes for ageing, and I wonder how on earth she has reached 95 and is still in quite good health, even if she does not appreciate it.)
Anyway, as I was saying, she has a saying that she frequently uses when I ask how she is.
“I’m getting there!”
One day recently she asked how I was doing and I said “I’m fine Mum”. Her response was, “Getting there then?”
I found to my delight that I could answer “I’m already there Mum!” I almost surprised myself with this answer, and I realised that I was indeed already there.
Well, I am happy, have peace of mind most of the time, I have love in my life from my husband, friends and family and I love myself.
I have a roof over my head which is comfortable and easy to keep clean. It is not the latest in design or full of useless things.
I have a wardrobe full of colourful clothes, which had not in any way cost me a lot of money, they are either from Charity shops, gifts from friends who have lost or put on weight, or from the Sales. Oh yes, I forgot the ones that I made too.
I have enough money to be comfortable, because I live a simple life, have no car to run, free bus pass, and no debts.
I have good health, in fact, my health has improved somewhat in the last couple of years since I stopped relying on the medical practice to tell me what I should do. The only drawback is my eyesight. But I am working on that not becoming an illness or causing too much disability.
I also have a very healthy diet. With the odd exception, I eat mostly organic, local foods, unprocessed and have perhaps a glass of wine once a week. When I eat out, I choose as near to those rules as possible and will ask the restaurant to tweak the menu for me.
In other words, I feel abundant, free and love my life. Just as I am now.
I do have a vision board which I wrote about in another blog because we do need to have a vision no matter what our age. My vision board includes holidays, nice clothes, a pretty garden, supporting people in my capacity of Funeral Celebrant. Being a speaker in front of a large audience about how to Age with Vitality, which is what I am doing.
I have balance in my life; I am already there, but I also have a vision for the future right up until the day I die. And if that day is nearer than I think, then I can say that I died content and knowing that I lived my life fulfilled, happy and healthy.
The first photo was in 1996
You could find out how you too could age with vitality by joining the facebook group “Ageing with Vitality” and also “Second Bloom” on Facebook, which is run by Sally Canning.