“I’m not ready for looking at Ageing!”
I have found that this is what people are saying when I tell them about Conscious Ageing.
Thinking about the second or third part of our lives, is a challenge and the cry is one of “I am not ready for looking at ageing, I want to make the most of my life.”
There it is facing you and you are not ready for that challenge.
And what do we do with challenges? We either meet them or not.
OR; We know we have to meet them at some time but we defer until we think the time is right.
When do you imagine that time will be?
(Think about this; at the age of fifty the likelihood of living to 100 is becoming more common. When you retire you could still have another forty years of living)
Think about a room that is used as a dumping ground. Or a closet that needs tidying out. You know that you have to do something about it, yet you keep putting it off and it only gets worse.
As it gets worse you start losing things. You may even go and buy another one of those things, knowing full well you already have one somewhere.
The room is collecting junk and debris, and it starts to play on your mind. But still you carry on collecting more and more things.
Then one day you realise that you can’t live with it any longer, or perhaps you may realise that you could make better use of the room. Make it into a guest room perhaps, or in the case of the closet, you simply cannot get anymore clothes in.
So you decide to clear it out. You come across things that may bring back good memories. Even things that you forgot you had. As you go through, you may gaze at them and may daydream and wish you had done something in a different way. You may even be grateful for the lessons you learnt from a certain experience or relationship.
Some things you find may need to be thrown in the trash and some may appear on a shelf in the lounge having been cleaned up and brought out fresh.
You may even wait until you are forced to clear it out and someone else has to do it. Such is the case with the hoarders that we see on TV.
So it is with our minds.
With Ageing, many of us go through life dreading it. We may even spend the rest of our years with the closet or room never having been cleared out. We resist looking at our lives and the past, put the emotions, feelings, mistakes and experiences away into a room and never get around to looking at what treasures could be kept, and which experiences in our lives could be put to rest.
We may even find stuff that is actually useful and can be put on display for the world to see and enjoy and even more important to learn from.
Or we may even be like the hoarders and become so overwhelmed that someone else has to sort it and you are a victim of your own circumstances.
So are you ready to start the clearing now, before it is too late?
The younger you are when you look at your ageing in reality, and not be in denial about it with all the anti ageing products you can find (a bit like using airfreshener on something smelly in the closet!) then the more you will be able to use what you find.
There may be a dream that you have been unable to pursue. Like writing a book.
But there are other even more challenges that you can meet in your older days.
With Age comes wisdom. You will be surprised at what wisdom that you have accumulated through the years.
There may be something that you are an expert at, and can start an online business or teach about it. It does not have to be much. Just something like gardening or travel, or crafts. Or more far afield such as volunteering to go abroad and teaching computer skills. The world of opportunities is out there.
It is not just a matter of passing the time. God knows there is never enough of that eh?
There are many sources now where these ideas are coming from. Google “Age Nation” or IONS and Conscious Ageing.
There are also some excellent books on the subject. One particularly is “Do Not Go Quietly” by George and Selina Cappenalli.
If this grabs you and you live in the UK, please do contact me. The idea of Conscious Ageing needs to come to the UK! The more people who join the force which Geroge amd Selina call “Elder Corps”, in the UK the more we can work together to make Ageing a Positive time of our lives.
And even make this world a better place by doing our bit.
That may even be the thing that is going to enhance your Ageing!